Man question #2

[Life2Christ]

How much intel do you need to make your move on a chick? What does she need to tell you or do to make it safe for you to ask her out?

Secondly, when a cute guy makes eye contact with me or checks me out I tend to roll my eyes and look away...how do I fix this?

 

[dayhiker]

I haven't been asking too many ladies out on dates. I've been doing more group stuff. Dancing, workshops, meetup groups. Tho I have a standing date with a Jewish lady every 2 weeks. Its understood that we will probably never get serious, as she is into Jewish renewal and I'm a Christian. Tho it does seem we spirituality gives us more in common that most women I meet. We go out to eat, talk about God and how to have a relationship with God. She also would like to get over some physical intimacy issues, so we do some exercises to work on that.
Another lady that I meet with hasn't worked out for quite a while now. This week because I'm sick.
These relationships are all none typical it seems to me.
As for how to deal with eye contact. I'd ask someone to practice with you so you get more comfortable looking others in the eyes. Its helped me a lot.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Try a new eye exercise instead of rolling your eyes..............................give em a wink!

 

[Life2Christ]

Try a new eye exercise instead of rolling your eyes..............................give em a wink!

I might get a hernia.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I might get a hernia.

well then you might need to get your winker checked out LOL

 

[dayhiker]

funny

 

[exitstageright]

I haven't been asking too many ladies out on dates. I've been doing more group stuff. Dancing, workshops, meetup groups. Tho I have a standing date with a Jewish lady every 2 weeks. Its understood that we will probably never get serious, as she is into Jewish renewal and I'm a Christian. Tho it does seem we spirituality gives us more in common that most women I meet. We go out to eat, talk about God and how to have a relationship with God. She also would like to get over some physical intimacy issues, so we do some exercises to work on that.
Another lady that I meet with hasn't worked out for quite a while now. This week because I'm sick.
These relationships are all none typical it seems to me.
As for how to deal with eye contact. I'd ask someone to practice with you so you get more comfortable looking others in the eyes. Its helped me a lot.

Thanks a million,Dayhiker,for you mentioning meetup!!Ever since I joined one meetup group,that had a good number of positive people,I have been getting e-mails from many meetup groups in the San Francisco Bay Area. With over 9,000,000 people here in the Bay Area,the number of meetup groups is ample for an active social life. It is very possible that I can have a date or an outing
every weekend!

 

[dayhiker]

I'm glad you like meetup, exit. I do fine it an amazing way way to meet people and get to see them interact with others.

 

[SearcherKris]

well then you might need to get your winker checked out LOL

 

[blackribbon]

When they roll away...consciously roll them back...make eye contact and smile.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Thanks a million,Dayhiker,for you mentioning meetup!!Ever since I joined one meetup group,that had a good number of positive people,I have been getting e-mails from many meetup groups in the San Francisco Bay Area. With over 9,000,000 people here in the Bay Area,the number of meetup groups is ample for an active social life. It is very possible that I can have a date or an outing
every weekend!

I am SO glad for you exit!!! See there IS hope for you yet

 

[Cactus Jack]

How much intel do you need to make your move on a chick? What does she need to tell you or do to make it safe for you to ask her out?

Secondly, when a cute guy makes eye contact with me or checks me out I tend to roll my eyes and look away...how do I fix this?

1. "Chick" is not the best of slang to use when talking about woman.
2. Just work on the rolling eyes thing.

 

[Life2Christ]

1. "Chick" is not the best of slang to use when talking about woman.

In the UK they say "bird".

 

[dayhiker]

If one loves to play with slang works, they should use them on the 1st date so if the date doesn't like fun they wouldn't accept the 2nd date when its asked for.

 

[wayfaringstranger]

When a woman rolls her eyes away from me it says she's not interested.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

When a woman rolls her eyes away from me it says she's not interested.

Yes, rolling eyes is seen as very negative. It is not, "I don't think I am interested", it is more like, "Ew, I don't want you within 1000 miles of me" negative.

 

[blackribbon]

Like I said, if it is a habit...so if you catch them rolling, consciously roll them back, make eye contact, and smile...

It doesn't mean "I am going to marry you" or even "I'll super interested"....it just helps counterbalance the rejection caused by the original eyeroll and says, "I see you as a person who deserves to be acknowledged"...and every person deserves that.

 

[Life2Christ]

I practiced today with a guy at a restaurant.. hee hee.

 

[dayhiker]

sweet Life

 

[blackribbon]

I practiced today with a guy at a restaurant.. hee hee.

It is fun, isn't it. Empowering. Especially if they make eye contact and smile back.