Making Up For Past Sins

[RonnyRulz]

I never feel guilty about much in my life, even when I know it's wrong. I always repent, but guilt is not me. But I still feel bad for what I did when I was a child. I have a good memory of the events.

I want to make it up to them, but I do not know how.


Does anyone have any ideas to make up for your past sins when it comes to....


In elementary and jr.high school I made fun of a few people. I can recall at least 4 of the other children across my 3rd grade to 9th grade year that I made fun of. They were loners who didn't have any friends, and I made fun of them for it.

In 3rd grade I made fun of Jerry. He wasn't a loner and had friends, but I invited him over just because he had an N64. That was the ONLY reason. I used him for it three times. (He only came over three times.)
After that, I drew frankenstein bolts on his picture in my yearbook with a marker and drew buck teeth =F with the marker too.
I then showed everyone the yearbook and the teacher took me aside, outside the door, and yelled at me saying "Stop making fun of him!"

In 7th grade I made fun of the guy everyone else made fun of. Ricky. He had greasy, upwards slanted hair, buck teeth, and a literal red neck. He also did poorly in math.
I made fun of him behind his back (never to his face) by drawing stick figure comics and by joking with my friends how stupid he was because of the way he looked (but it was true, he wasn't very intelligent, which made it even worse that I was making fun of him).
One time, everyone was making fun of him. He looked to me, thinking I was his friend, and I failed him by making fun of him too. I remember the look on his face, brokenhearted that even I would make fun of him (making him completely alone) and the look on his face, then he looked at me with that desire to still want to be friends and said to me cheering me on, "...go Ronny....."
That broke my heart and I will never forget the look on his face and the cry of his heart.

In 8th grade, I made fun of James. He was really white with freckles, a little chubby, never had a girlfriend (lol, but neither had I....) and was a mormon, had a very light voice, and wasn't very popular and all his friends were girls.
I made fun of all of those things, mocking him behind his back, but to his face I talked to him and was a friend.


In 5th grade, I threatened to beat up my best friend Kyle. I even pushed him into the fence and it cut him (I immeditely was like "[wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth] ARE YOU OKAY IM SORRY!" but after he said he was okay, got mean again and threatened to beat him up, stalking him after school.




How can I make it up to these people? This was elementary and jr.high, these people probably don't even exist anymore. Is there a way I can make it up to them by doing something else?

I am now best friends with Kyle and already apologized like 200 times. (We were best friends, then worst enemies, then best friends again, then better best friends, then stayed best friends, then I showed him to Jesus by bringing him to my church and to youth camp. Now he is a firm believer in Jesus and knows the Holy Spirit.)


I just feel like I owe these people for the abuse that I did to them behind their back or to their face. Especially having the charade of "I am your good friend." to their face, but mocking them histarically behind their back.

I repented.
I confessed my sins.
What do I do to repay them for what I did wrong?

 

[puddleoffaith]

Here's the thing...we can never repay our wrongs. All who have sinned have fallen short of the glory of God. There is nothing that you can ever do to erase those sins.
The good news is, Jesus can! He saved us from our sins by sacrificing himself-a perfect lamb. I'm sure you're already perfectly aware of this but sometimes, you really need to drive it home.

If you just want to make say hi to those people and apologize, maybe try Facebook. But seriously, you are not in the seventh grade anymore, you are 21. Those people have probably long moved on and may not even remember you.

 

[RonnyRulz]

Here's the thing...we can never repay our wrongs. All who have sinned have fallen short of the glory of God. There is nothing that you can ever do to erase those sins.
The good news is, Jesus can! He saved us from our sins by sacrificing himself-a perfect lamb. I'm sure you're already perfectly aware of this but sometimes, you really need to drive it home.

If you just want to make say hi to those people and apologize, maybe try Facebook. But seriously, you are not in the seventh grade anymore, you are 21. Those people have probably long moved on and may not even remember you.

That is not true, God does want us to reconcile what we can, and try to make up to those who wrong us.

Matt 5:23-24
23"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.



The old testament, as well as Jesus, talk about reconciliation and making it up to others the wrong that you did to them.

We can repay our wrongs. Jesus forgives us our sins, but we still need to go and reconcile.

This is true repentance.
To not ask forgiveness with your lips, but to ask forgiveness with your heart.


I cannot go up to these three people I mocked and make it up to them. This was in 5th-8th grade. They do not even exist in oklahoma anymore. But I want to make it up to them by doing something in their name to help someone like them. But what am I to do? Go to a jr.high, stand in the classroom, then whenever someone makes fun of someone else beat a 12 year old up?

I am asking for realistic ways to make it up to them.

You make fun of someone's teeth, you can repay them by paying dentist work for someone else in the future.
Mock someone for not having a girlfriend, you can help someone with loneliness.

I am wondering about realistic ways to reconcile.


I don't care if I "don't have to reconcile because I am forgiven", I want to reconcile.
I want to do something good to make up for the bad. Not because I have to, but because I want to. Not because it will relieve me of guilt, but because I think "I owe it to them to do this. I want to bless them."
That way when they enter heaven, they will get the blessings of the good deed I did, instead of me getting the good deed.
I want to give them a blessing by doing the work for them.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

I cannot go up to these three people I mocked and make it up to them. This was in 5th-8th grade. They do not even exist in oklahoma anymore. But I want to make it up to them by doing something in their name to help someone like them. But what am I to do? Go to a jr.high, stand in the classroom, then whenever someone makes fun of someone else beat a 12 year old up?

I am asking for realistic ways to make it up to them.

You make fun of someone's teeth, you can repay them by paying dentist work for someone else in the future.
Mock someone for not having a girlfriend, you can help someone with loneliness.

I am wondering about realistic ways to reconcile.

I don't care if I "don't have to reconcile because I am forgiven", I want to reconcile.
I want to do something good to make up for the bad. Not because I have to, but because I want to. Not because it will relieve me of guilt, but because I think "I owe it to them to do this. I want to bless them."
That way when they enter heaven, they will get the blessings of the good deed I did, instead of me getting the good deed.
I want to give them a blessing by doing the work for them.

I don't agree with your theology but if you're looking for ways to work with kids then volunteer at your local boys and girls club; become a mentor at a local school; become a Big Brother in the Big Brother/Big Sister program; help out with the youth group at your church; contact your local police station and see if there is a program that works with troubled teens and volunteer your time. There are plenty of ways to volunteer to help kids.

 

[RonnyRulz]

God said I already made it up to them- and then some.

I reconciled, repented, and confessed my sin. I will not reap and sow from this now.

He answered me

Thanks anyway lolol

From now on I am gonna stop seeking answers from CF and just ask God. He is so much smarter

 

[SonicBOOM]

well... I don't think guilt is good.... but on the other hand we should show some remorse for our sins. Not doing so is on the road of making our hearts hard. Jesus rebuked the people for not repenting for their sins and he used the words "weeping and crying". We should show remorse for our sins... but we shouldn't feel condemned. God doesn't accuse us... but he WILL convict us. The diffrence is usaully the fact if we can do something about it or not. If we just feel guilty and hopless... thats Satan. If we feel bad and want to change... thats God.

 

[gottabemore2life]

If it is really bugging you THAT much, you can make an attempt to find these people... (like on Billy Madison where he calls the guy up and he crosses him off his "People To Kill" list? haha) and apologize. If you really think it will make you feel better. But you are probably right; there's not a very good chance you will find them.

I think you need to forgive yourself. And I reiterate what others have said, you can't make up for past sins, that's why we have Jesus. You repent (turn from those ways) and move on.

Sorry, but you have GOT to let this go man... you make me feel really bad about my sins!!!