making time for sex?

[Mom4Christ]

After finding all of my husband's porn on the computer several weeks ago, we now have a much better, more communicative marriage. He is so loving and we are so happy now.

But, we never seem to be able to find time for sex anymore. He works quite a bit and I take care of our baby and our house all day. We're both so tired and I've been sick with the flu for the past few days.

Does anyone actually schedule time for sex? We both miss the newlywed days of sex several times a day, everyday. But that just isn't feasible anymore. And quickies are just out of the question. After having my son, I need a little more time to get, uh, aroused.

Any ideas?

 

[PegasusOnFire]

Does anyone actually schedule time for sex? We both miss the newlywed days of sex several times a day, everyday. But that just isn't feasible anymore. And quickies are just out of the question. After having my son, I need a little more time to get, uh, aroused.

Hmm, as a newlywed, I will have to say that my husband and I don't have sex all that often. No, we don't schedule time for sex, but we get each other in the mood, so to speak. I would suggest having some one babysit your son while you two go out an a romantic date.

 

[kdet]

After finding all of my husband's porn on the computer several weeks ago, we now have a much better, more communicative marriage. He is so loving and we are so happy now.

But, we never seem to be able to find time for sex anymore. He works quite a bit and I take care of our baby and our house all day. We're both so tired and I've been sick with the flu for the past few days.

Does anyone actually schedule time for sex? We both miss the newlywed days of sex several times a day, everyday. But that just isn't feasible anymore. And quickies are just out of the question. After having my son, I need a little more time to get, uh, aroused.

Any ideas?

I've been married many years and I can tell you that there is nothing wrong with scheduling some quality time together...and that in itself can be arousing...having that anticipation of knowing that tommorow at 6 you will be able to be close.
We also plan dates togther making plans to take romantic baths together with candles and massages afterwards, you might have to work at little harder at it and lose the sponanity but in the long run in my opinion it leads to a much more fullfilling love life together!

 

[karla]

I remember after we had our daughter, sex was the last thing on my mind. I was so exhausted and when my husband was at home we were usually spending time with the baby or passing out on the couch. After our son was born, things were different. It is easy to get caught up in parenthood that you forget that before you were a mom and dad you were a husband and wife. I don't see anything wrong with "scheduling time" for eachother. If you can't get a babysitter, then put the baby to bed earlier and then have a romantic at home date. Not sure how old your little one is and if you are at the sleeping through the night stage yet, but it is important to focus on your marriage. A happy loving marriage is an excellent model for your children. They learn what love and marriage is all about from you. It is amazing at how much they absorb even at a young age. It does get better with time just make it a priority and keep communication open with your husband so that he knows how you feel.

 

[Blue Flame]

several times a day, everyday? Wow. hehe. Can't say we're like that even after only 4 months of marriage......maybe when we're out of school and not stressed out At any rate, i don't see any problem with scheduling. My wife and I are both in school and have very little time to ourselves, so we schedule dates and stuff. We don't really schedule "sex time" per se, but "date" usually ends up as a euphemism

Whatever way works, just make sure you get time alone together, it's so important, and even if you're exhausted, go for it

 

[LN]

We schedule time too! Makes it easier to be on the same page in terms of when to expect sex

 

[Mom4Christ]

We were like rabbits. During our first holiday season, I worked 2 jobs, one was full-time, and went to college full time. Now, with our son, he always seems to wake up at the wrong time! He's 7 1/2 months, but hasn't been sleeping well lately for some reason.

We're gonna have to get a babysitter this weekend!

 

[Svt4Him]

We were like rabbits.

Ever feel like being a bit discrete when talking about your sex life? Could just be me, but seems like a bit too much info, IMO.

And yes, you should plan times of sex. If you leave it until the end of a busy day, it will be just a task to get done. When you plan, you actually can think about what you will do.

 

[seebs]

I feel exactly the opposite way; if it's planned, it's a scheduled task, like paying the bills, or rotating the laundry.

Oh, man! The laundry. BRB.

Okay, anyway. Neither my wife nor I is into "scheduled" sex. It feels like doing a chore. So, we don't do that. We wait for opportunities and take them as they arise.

 

[peterc]

scheduled-unscheduled, at home or away, exhibition or regular season, its all good

 

[chriso]

My wife and I have been married over 20 years. You must make it a priority to spend quality time with each other. Sometimes just a 20 min neck rub at the end of a hectic day can mean so much. Try to spend "quality" time together and I am sure you will find time for intimacy.

 

[katelyn]

I think scheduling one evening a week to leave the baby with a babysitter is a great idea if you can possibly do this! It doesn't have to be specifically for sex, but it's set aside as your special time together.

 

[Evening Mist]

Nope. We don't schedule it. Somehow, I think I would just end up feeling "obligated" that way, you know? What if I happen to be really tired on the scheduled evening?

As far as frequently waking babies.... heh,heh.... its his way of making sure that he stays an only child until he is old enough to cope with being displaced!

We got pretty creative when ours were small babies. The best option ended up being: nursing and snuggling the baby to sleep between us in our bed, and then sneaking down to the livingroom -- but making sure to be back in bed with the baby before he was likely to wake up again... It made things exciting. Fast, but exciting.