I'm starting college in january and was wondering if anyone had any tips on making friends at college?
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Making Friends at college
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Get to know people on your hall. Find clubs with similar interests to yours.
I cannot stress getting to know your hall. My freshman year, I was a recluse for about the first week, and then a couple guys randomly burst in to my room, breathlessly asking if I wanted to play Halo.
We (about 8 or so of us) have been friends ever since. All of our roommate choices since then have been within that group, and we still frequently hang out, go to meals, etc.
I cannot stress getting to know your hall. My freshman year, I was a recluse for about the first week, and then a couple guys randomly burst in to my room, breathlessly asking if I wanted to play Halo.
We (about 8 or so of us) have been friends ever since. All of our roommate choices since then have been within that group, and we still frequently hang out, go to meals, etc.
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Talk to people, I guess. I've been going almost 3 years and haven't made one friend. XD But I just go to class and leave, I suppose you should stick around and talk to people. If you can't do that, I don't know what to say, you're in the same boat I am.
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Join clubs!
Find something you're interested in or passionate about and sign up.
Find something you're interested in or passionate about and sign up.
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BeautifulDestiny09
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Like everyone else said, join some organizations/clubs! Talk to people in class! I'm not a very outgoing person naturally, but being in gospel choir and on the programming board at my previous school helped to bring me out of my shell! Good luck in school next semester, I def know how it is to be the new kid on the block!
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Join a couple clubs, get involved in stuff you enjoy doing, and get involved in a church or at least a Christian group of some kind. I've made the most friends at chuch over any other activity I've ever done.
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I'd say join some clubs, a common answer. There's usually activity fairs, at least at larger campuses where there is students living on campus, during the first few weeks of fall and spring semesters, so keep an eye out for those.
Also, do get to know people you live with, if you are living on campus. Don't be shy in group projects. When you're in a forced collaborative social situation (i.e.: group project), be assertive and still toss in details about yourself, treat it like fishing, you're casting a detail about yourself out there, and if someone bites, then you have something in common.
Also, do get to know people you live with, if you are living on campus. Don't be shy in group projects. When you're in a forced collaborative social situation (i.e.: group project), be assertive and still toss in details about yourself, treat it like fishing, you're casting a detail about yourself out there, and if someone bites, then you have something in common.
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Thanks guys for the advice i will use it well next semister, i was orginaly going to community college, but the atmospere was to fast paced they were mostly people that where in to a hurry to get to there job then to talk. So i transfered to a bigger University, which seems more relaxed and slower paced wish me luck and thanks again for the help.
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This is very rare occasion, and usually its either because of personal choice or because the person has problems meeting people.
I'm sorry to offend you, the person I quoted, but the only time I've met people who don't have much friends in college is because they have problems themselves that need counseling.
Unless you made it a personal choice not to have many college friends.
Sorry I have tons of them, I'm a social butterfly, and I was hated in highschool and had almost no friends. I love college, and this is my fourth year.
Also, Community college is nothing like a 4 year college. Socially they are totally different. I really don't see much benefit anymore in those colleges if it comes socially.
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the only thing that i can think of is that im still getting over my shyness. i'm better then i was when i was in highschool, im practicly a social butteryfly now. i just dont know how to break the ice and get the conversation going. and im hoping that when i start at the bigger college this january that people are more social and eaiser to talk to.
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The more oppurtunities where you run into your fear, the more you'll learn how to deal with it. It'll neer go away, but to run away from it is whats going to make your stagnant, you can do more then you think. I believe that in you, and I don't even know you.
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thxs that means alot
, i try not to run away but i have days where i do. I'm much better now, on a scale of 1-10 of being social im probaby up to 5 or 6 now from 1 or 2 in highschool.
, i try not to run away but i have days where i do. I'm much better now, on a scale of 1-10 of being social im probaby up to 5 or 6 now from 1 or 2 in highschool.
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i have another question im 23 and will be turning 24 in Feb, and im starting my freshman year at a new college. will that make it hard for me to make friends, since most of them or in the 18-21 age group. i was talking to my dad today about college. and he said that there not going to want to have anything to do with me since im that old. im real worried now that im not going to make friends
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i have another question im 23 and will be turning 24 in Feb, and im starting my freshman year at a new college. will that make it hard for me to make friends, since most of them or in the 18-21 age group. i was talking to my dad today about college. and he said that there not going to want to have anything to do with me since im that old. im real worried now that im not going to make friends
I think you'll still be able to make friends, when I was 19 I was really good friends with a guy from the church who was 24, he switched majors and got stuck here an extra year or so then was the intern at the church. So just because you're older doesn't mean they won't like you. I actually prefer to hang out with people older than me anyway.
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No? If your okay to not have many friends then okay. Just don't think college is a lonely place, cause thats your choice.
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kiwiholly
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This might seem like obvious or silly advice, but talk to random people you see sitting by themselves! I definitely think people are a lot less intimidating when they're not in groups, and there are absolutely bound to be some other students in the same boat as you, just kind of "rattling around" on campus.
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