Lustful love

[Glamgoddess]

Hi,

I have been reading some of the threads here about lust, and sexual intimacy, and kissing...and I was wondering, have people here heard of having a lustful love for your SO?

I believe I do. I love his mind, his heart, and yes, I love his body too. No, I've never had sex or anything with him, but to be physicaly close to him never seems to be of a sexual nature...more sensual I guess? I can't get enough of the cuddles, and not because it's physiacl, but something inside grins when we hold hand or something

What I mean is, I do find him to be gorgeous on the outside, but that's not what attracted me to him, it was what I saw inside him, and we kiss..and we even have long kisses, and we never lose control. The kissing and touching each other isn't intiated by lust, in fact I never have lusty thoughts about doing things I wouldn't actually do, like having sex, but it's because I love him, and it's a way of making him see how I care for him.

I suppose I'm babling here, but what I want to know is, is it possible to have a lustful love for someone? Is it wrong to lustfuly love someone??

 

[*Miau*]

well - according the Bible lusting is a sin... BUT my advise to you is to do whatever you feel is right for you and your SO to do. (apart from having sex!) Long kisses are just wonderful, aren't they??
For some people/couples long kisses are more than crossing the line of what's acceptable behaviour before marriage. But for other couples kissing and cuddling are totally ok - because they can keep it there and not move on to the next level. It's individual and it's up to you where you put down your yellow line (as long as it's not violating the word of God.)

 

[John the Engineer]

Exactly as Miau said, it's not a hard line. Some people want to draw hard lines, but that's for their lives. Holding hands, kissing, etc, they're not against the word of God. As she said, what's sin for one is not for another. Just keep following the Lord's will for your life and you'll be fine! If you leave your life open before the Lord he'll convict you of what is not right before his will. So just allow the Lord to move and make his life alive in you.

But long kisses, cuddling, etc, not wrong in my book. And yes, physical attraction is necessary. If you're not having to hold back sexual thoughts, standing against ideas like having sex when you're kissing, then I'd say you're doing A-OK!