Low sex drive in men?

[GregoryTurner]

I have been reading some posts in this forum and alot of the women are saying that their sex drive is higher than their husbands. My wife is the same way and I was just wondering why that is. Do you wives feel less loved or less attractive by your husband's low drive? Husbands, do you know why you do not want it as much as she does? I am very interested to know... Thank you for your time.

 

[Gimpy]

Its a simple biological fact that men tend to become less interested because they produce less testosterone as they age and women produce less estrogen. Since both sexes produce both, the balance changes with age.

 

[gracefaith]

For us, the simple fact is that my husband finds sex emotionally draining, whereas I find it emotionally energizing. It took us a long time to figure this out and I did spend many years feeling very rejected when he was simply too emotionally drained to make love to me.

It's one of those tricky love languages things. I really have to make sure that I'm nuturing and uplifting my husband emotionally (filling the well, so to speak), in order for him to feel that he has the wherewithall to give back to me in the way I need.

 

[GregoryTurner]

Thank you for your thoughts. They are much appreciated...

 

[jacquidube]

Its something to think about. I just thought we werent having too much sex because we had grown to know each other. I have a higher sex drive than my husband. He is almost 29 and I am 42. I appreciate sex more and he still sees it as something he needs to do to get satisfaction. I get turned on by most things so does that mean I have a higher sex drive. You see I could be turned on but not want sex with my husband because I know what he feels like so I dont get turned on as much, but my sex drive is still high and so leads to frustration. I dont know really.

 

[rainbowpromise]

I have been reading some posts in this forum and alot of the women are saying that their sex drive is higher than their husbands. My wife is the same way and I was just wondering why that is. Do you wives feel less loved or less attractive by your husband's low drive? Husbands, do you know why you do not want it as much as she does? I am very interested to know... Thank you for your time.

I feel less loved and less attractive. I do believe that it is just a matter of biological changes as we age.

 

[Million Pieces]

I absolutely have issues with this. I certainly feel less loved and attractive. But I have come to realize it's a combination of many factors: 1. I have recently lost weight, which builds my self-confidence and esteem, which makes me more interested in "performing". 2. My dh has in the past few days admitted an addiction to internet porn, which I understand can in SOME cases cause his libido for his wife to slip for whatever reasons of guilt/lack of desire/comparison/etc. 3. I am nearing 40, which is the biological sexual peak for women.

 

[GregoryTurner]

hmmmmm....