Love from far away

[Uphill Battle]

Hi all, I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman, we've been going out for about 5 months now, and it is a commited relationship. (Not yet reached the getting engaged part yet, but I definitely am thinking about future with her.) Thing is, she is going away for four months at the end of July. I fully support her trip, she is obeying God by going, but I was wondering if there were others who had to have their relationship interrupted by a prolonged absence? we are going to be able to stay in touch, but I sometimes feel depressed about not seeing her for that long... I love her too much to feel otherwise. Anyone else deal with it? how did you?

 

[peanutbutter12]

You obviousely haven't read many of the posts on this part of the board to ask such a question. Shame on you.

I'm in a LD relationship right now myself and we are getting married in October. Being away is a true trial and test of strength to the relationship. Look at it this way, if you can get through this and stay strong the whole time, you will learn not to take the relationship for granted and will be able to get through all the small things in the future.

CJ

 

[Uphill Battle]

1000 pardons for not noticing your other posts.... I just posted willy nilly!
I humbly ask for forgiveness!

I guess I'm just looking for a way to deal with the negative feelings I'm having about "losing" her for 4 months. I know I'm not, she's obeying God (one of the reasons that I love her so much in the first place) And I have no lack of trust that the relationship won't suffer. But the little selfish man inside is screaming his fool head off.

 

[InTheFlame]

Like TerraSin says, it's a good test of the relationship - and of your mutual maturity. While it's only normal to miss someone you love when they're not around, it is NOT healthy to pine, withdraw from the world the entire time they're gone or feel as though you can't survive without them. A healthy relationship is made up of two people who know they can survive fine without the other person - but realise that their life is enriched by having the other around. So I guess what I'm saying is, admit that you're sad that she'll be gone, admit that you miss her, even cry occasionally... but then get up and about your normal life. Stay busy.

Does that help?

 

[KristianJ]

1000 pardons for not noticing your other posts.... I just posted willy nilly!
I humbly ask for forgiveness!

I guess I'm just looking for a way to deal with the negative feelings I'm having about "losing" her for 4 months. I know I'm not, she's obeying God (one of the reasons that I love her so much in the first place) And I have no lack of trust that the relationship won't suffer. But the little selfish man inside is screaming his fool head off.

Is she going somewhere where you'll be able to maintain contact with her? If so, I guess that if you were able to write letters or call each other on a regular basis, that would help to dissipate any "negative" feelings. Otherwise it is important to remember that you shouldn't let the feelings overwhelm you to the point where they affect your day to day living. Have joy in her obedience to God's calling and that his hand of protection wil be on her as she takes this trip!