My new family counselor is promoting this style of parenting? Anyone have any experience/opinions?
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Love and Logic
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marezee
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I've never heard of this b4, just looked it up on the web.
it sounds legit and Jim Fay seems to have the education behind him to know what he's doing. but in my opinion, i think parenting is a lot more subjective than what can be put in a book.
I think every family dynamic is different, each child is different, each parent is different, and each relationship is different. too many variables for a cookie-cutter approach.
I would take from it what i could use and disregard the rest.
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oh for sure... I just wondered if anyone had any real experience with it and personal testimony about it succeeding or failing
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We started to learn it. From what I can tell, it's a good tactic for rationale children, when they are rationale. It doesn't seem very effective outside of that. We have some mentally ill and disabled children where bad consequences don't seem to serve effectively as a deterrent. But, where it DOES work, it certainly seems worthwhile and fits with Biblical values such as,
"Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord." Eph. 6:4
"Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord." Eph. 6:4
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I read the book Teaching with Love and Logic as a book study with my staff when I was teaching Kindergarten. It had some great points, and think that the style is worth looking at, and adapting to your family.
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I read the book Teaching with Love and Logic as a book study with my staff when I was teaching Kindergarten. It had some great points, and think that the style is worth looking at, and adapting to your family.
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http://www.loveandlogic.com/articles.html
here's a source online i found. some sounds great. some is... questionable IMO
here's a source online i found. some sounds great. some is... questionable IMO
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heart of peace
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A friend of mine has an autistic daughter (high functioning) and she raves about this book. I should ask her why she liked it so much.
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my counselor did say it was good for children who were not able to be addressed in typical ways (I'm sure autistic would qualify as that). Her kids were severely emotionally abused before she married their dad (step-kids) and she could not do any of the typical discipline tactics without them being really upset.
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heart of peace
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So, I asked her what she liked about the book. She said it expands on parenting methods that encourage intrinsic motivation because it helps one's child understand the why's to a situation and not just "do as I say" (blind obedience) parenting styles.
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i saw that too
i've been trying to do some little things with Randi and she seems to be responding
like: either you can come with me into the living room or you can go in your bedroom but you cannot stay in mommies room (she and i have had numerous disagreements about whether my room is public domain).
she hops right up and either goes with me or to her room
it's nice
i saw that too
i've been trying to do some little things with Randi and she seems to be responding
like: either you can come with me into the living room or you can go in your bedroom but you cannot stay in mommies room (she and i have had numerous disagreements about whether my room is public domain).
she hops right up and either goes with me or to her room
it's nice
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