Lost my love...

[GabyLand]

On June 22nd I lost the man with whom I fell in love 3 years ago. He was the light of my days.. He passed away unexpectedly from an intestine infection, he was just 30 years old.. we had a life ahead of us filled with plans, love, hope.. now that he is gone I have nothing left anymore..its been since then 2 months of tears and sadness which I have to learn to deal with for the rest of my life. I never thought this could happen to me, I wanted to grow old by his side, have kids and all those things that luckily some people have the chance to exprience in their life.
People say I'm young and I'll find somebody else, but what they can't see is that I dont want nobody else but him... suddenly my life fell apart and I dont know where Im standing at any longer...

 

[Ruth~]

On June 22nd I lost the man with whom I fell in love 3 years ago. He was the light of my days.. He passed away unexpectedly from an intestine infection, he was just 30 years old.. we had a life ahead of us filled with plans, love, hope.. now that he is gone I have nothing left anymore..its been since then 2 months of tears and sadness which I have to learn to deal with for the rest of my life. I never thought this could happen to me, I wanted to grow old by his side, have kids and all those things that luckily some people have the chance to exprience in their life.
People say I'm young and I'll find somebody else, but what they can't see is that I dont want nobody else but him... suddenly my life fell apart and I dont know where Im standing at any longer...

I'm so sorry for your loss and I do understand how you must feel. I lost the love of my life, too, but it was some 19 years ago. I felt the same way as you did. Like all our plans were gone and I was left all alone. I am praying for you to make it through this. It took me quite awhile to grieve for him and you have every right to your grieving. Give yourself plenty of time and allow yourself to feel everything you feel. Again, I am so sorry. It's a horrible loss.

 

[rushingwind62]

On June 22nd I lost the man with whom I fell in love 3 years ago. He was the light of my days.. He passed away unexpectedly from an intestine infection, he was just 30 years old.. we had a life ahead of us filled with plans, love, hope.. now that he is gone I have nothing left anymore..its been since then 2 months of tears and sadness which I have to learn to deal with for the rest of my life. I never thought this could happen to me, I wanted to grow old by his side, have kids and all those things that luckily some people have the chance to exprience in their life.
People say I'm young and I'll find somebody else, but what they can't see is that I dont want nobody else but him... suddenly my life fell apart and I dont know where Im standing at any longer...

Gaby,
we carry the memories in our hearts of those who pass on. Cherish those memories and remember the good times. I know right now you are grieving and the sadness is overwhelming. But he would want you to move on with your life, you know that. I am not saying to go out and start dating but I am saying get out. Go shopping, go for walks in the park, do something other than sitting around thinking about it all the time. All isolating yourself will do is drive you deeper into depression and get you stuck in the grieving process. I know you may not feel like getting out but force yourself to, even if it is only for a little while. Sunshine has a way of doing it's own healing. Get out and enjoy nature. Listen to the birds singing, watch the squirrels play, watch the kids playing in the park. You might just find yourself laughing at the antics....God Bless You....Rush

 

[WayneW]

Gaby

I lost my love, my soulmate, almost 9 months ago. My darling Bonnie passed away 2 months to the day after our 15th anniversary from ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease). She had been ill for a couple of years and passed away very suddenly and unexpectedly. We knew what the eventual outcome of her illness would be, but we thought we had more time.

I remember how low and depressed I was for the first month. I would actually get on my knees and pray every night for God to take me Home to be with my Bonnie. After that first month I began to realize that this just wasn't going to happen. So I changed my prayer from praying for destruction to praying for direction. It was at this point that the Lord lifted me up and the depression eased.

When I got to the 4 month mark, I found myself falling into depression again. I had been posting with others on another board for widow(er)s and found that is was pretty common to hit another low at around the 4-6 months mark, but I believe my problem was that I was so focussed on my Bonnie and so looking forward to our reunion in Heaven that I was actually worshipping her and her memory more than I was worshipping God. I was still worshipping God, but He had kind of fallen to 2nd place in my life. This second depression wasn't as bad as the first, but it lasted longer. In fact, it lasted for about 2 months until I figured out what I was doing wrong. Once I realized how wrong I was to worship my love above worshipping the Lord and repented, He immediately (I mean at that moment of realization) lifted me back up out of the depression and I haven't had problems with depression since.

I don't know how I'd be if it weren't for the very real presence of the Lord in my life. He really has blessed me with that peace that passes all understanding. I still miss my darling Bonnie very much and I do look forward to our reunion when it's my turn to go Home, but I hold her where she belongs in my esteem, just below Jesus.

Just keep holding on to Jesus and pray, pray, pray; it really does help.

I'll be keeping you in my prayers

God Bless,

Wayne

 

[GabyLand]

Thank you all for your prayers, Ruth57, rushingwind62 and WayneW, they mean alot to me, thank you all for your words as well, it is of great comfort to know there's understanding people like you. Thank you once again and you are all in my prayers as well, blessings.

 

[Tiggie]

On June 22nd I lost the man with whom I fell in love 3 years ago. He was the light of my days.. He passed away unexpectedly from an intestine infection, he was just 30 years old.. we had a life ahead of us filled with plans, love, hope.. now that he is gone I have nothing left anymore..its been since then 2 months of tears and sadness which I have to learn to deal with for the rest of my life. I never thought this could happen to me, I wanted to grow old by his side, have kids and all those things that luckily some people have the chance to exprience in their life.
People say I'm young and I'll find somebody else, but what they can't see is that I dont want nobody else but him... suddenly my life fell apart and I dont know where Im standing at any longer...

hun i'm so sorry you've had this happen to you. it's something i'm terrified will happen to me. years ago i lost my sister and haven't stopped grieving for her since. but somehow it's different with a life partner, hey?

i just pray that God will give you peace that surpasses all understanding and comforts you when you feel all strength has left you.

you're in our prayers...

 

[GabyLand]

Tiggie, thank you for your support.. I'm really sorry to know you lost your sister...it must be very hard as well. It's so hard to try to keep on going when one loses somebody so loved. I often have asked myself why is the sun still coming out and why everything else may continue now now that he's gone...
Tiggie you and your sister are in my prayers too, blessings,

Gaby

 

[Tiggie]

Tiggie, thank you for your support.. I'm really sorry to know you lost your sister...it must be very hard as well. It's so hard to try to keep on going when one loses somebody so loved. I often have asked myself why is the sun still coming out and why everything else may continue now now that he's gone...
Tiggie you and your sister are in my prayers too, blessings,

Gaby

awww hun- don't worry bout me- you're the one who needs all the prayers and support now! my heart aches for what you must be going through. i know what you mean about how life just seems to go on, and you're left thinking "stop! this has happened! how can you just carry on living like normal and go to the shops and cook meals and laugh and joke when i'm in such torment!" i know i had those feelings.
i still ache, but i try not to think about it much. dumb i know cos it's a bit counter productive to the healing process when one doesn't think about the person we are grieving. but it gets a bit easier after a few months. at first it's really raw- like now with you I'm sure, but it gets sllightly easier as time goes by. i always thought when ppl said that to me that it was cruel and callous- but it isn't, cos you don't forget them or get over them, but just learn to accept it differently i guess. i dunno- i doubt what i'm saying is even helping at all- nothing can hey?
but know you're in my thoughts and prayers. you can get through this- God will love you and comfort you. He says He will... hugs...

 

[Cyberdyne1]

People say I'm young and I'll find somebody else,

If my wife died and someone said that to me they would be digging my shoe out of their throat...

 

[GabyLand]

awww hun- don't worry bout me- you're the one who needs all the prayers and support now! my heart aches for what you must be going through. i know what you mean about how life just seems to go on, and you're left thinking "stop! this has happened! how can you just carry on living like normal and go to the shops and cook meals and laugh and joke when i'm in such torment!" i know i had those feelings.
i still ache, but i try not to think about it much. dumb i know cos it's a bit counter productive to the healing process when one doesn't think about the person we are grieving. but it gets a bit easier after a few months. at first it's really raw- like now with you I'm sure, but it gets sllightly easier as time goes by. i always thought when ppl said that to me that it was cruel and callous- but it isn't, cos you don't forget them or get over them, but just learn to accept it differently i guess. i dunno- i doubt what i'm saying is even helping at all- nothing can hey?
but know you're in my thoughts and prayers. you can get through this- God will love you and comfort you. He says He will... hugs...

Hi Tiggie, thanks again for your words, you're so kind, really. I do hope so, that time eventually will help me heal, it's just so hard to think about "leaving behind" what at some moment in time was one of the biggest part of my life.. still wake ups become so cruel remembering he's not around...but as you say, in the future, maybe it could become easily to bare.
God bless you

 

[GabyLand]

If my wife died and someone said that to me they would be digging my shoe out of their throat...

Cyberdyne1, some people can be cold when saying things.. I wonder if it's cause maybe they haven't had the chance of knowing what love is about.. it's not like going to the store and look for a new outfit or so... we are talking about a person who lived, loved, and is still loved, I just hope they never get to pass through such a painful situation.
Blessings