My two brothers, who are Christians, have discontinued fellowship with me because my significant other is an unbeliever.
They believe I am in sin....constant sin.
I certainly do not see it this way...
Some Christians are legalistic and point their holy fingers at you when they are just as much in sin for not having compassion or mercy.
Others shun family members as well because of their life styles. If you are doing drugs, getting drunk and using fowl language all the time, or even living with your boyfriend, then maybe they aren't so off base.
Let me tell you this, I never understood what being
unequally yoked was until I was married to someone who wasn't a believer. In the beggining, we were in agreement with all the issues of life, needs, wants, direction, etc.; and she seemed so sincere, going to church with me and getting a Bible, pretending to be interested, but after we got married ... "I'm sorry, I can't believe this stuff ... I don't believe in God ... and I_was_floored!
(see 2 Cor.6:14).
Christians are spiritually the temple of the Holy Spirit and the joining and communing with someone who is not, is like mixing water with oil. It doesn't mix well; it doesn't communicate well and you certainly want to have a man who is the
spiritual leader of your home, otherwise, where do you think he will lead you? Down his path, not God's. As much as you try to join and
become one, unseen forces and temptations are working against you to pull you apart and move you both in opposite directions. After a while you will feel that you do not have the most important thing, the
essence of life, a personal relationship with Jesus in common. After just a few months of marriage, my wife and I started to disagree and argue all the time, every week because she was on a different path and had a different perspective. There was no peace until I ended it.
In the beggining of a relationship, everything is great and the emotions are flowing and you are dancing through a field of flowers, in love ... ah, sweetness and they are showing their best side until after a year or so their idiosyncrasies come out and they can no longer hold in their true self, less tolerant and less nice. He can tell you, "Oh honey, you can go to church and believe what you want and I respect that. And in some marriages, they work it out and tolerate their beliefs, but you have to keep it to yourself and not talk about it because if you bring it up, he'll criticize it and embarrass you ...
you can't share the Lord with them and how sad it will be! Christians have a different perspective in life, a different world view and that is how we live, we are aliens passing through. Just listen to the arguments the Christian forum members are having with unbelievers ... nice? tolerant? or mud-slinging insults and plain rudeness? I've even gotten caught up in it -- like I said, there are spiritual forces seeking to destroy your beliefs. The Devil uses them, unbeknownst to them, but he will use them to try to destroy your faith, chipping away at it, little by little. But they all fail because no one can snatch you out of the Father's hand if you are truely saved. God wants us to walk down his path and unbelievers reject that path. What someone told me once before is, "don't missionary marry!" I should have listened, but of course, I was a hopeless romantic who was going to change her mind! Ouch!
