Losing Support System

[anteloperunner]

In May I will be graduating from university and accepting a job in another city, the closest job I am going through interviews for is 3 hours away with no traffic from where I live now this gives me a couple of issues that I'm struggling with, first is the fact the my counselor Jo is employed by the university so i cant see her anymore when i graduate even if I lived close enough too. I have three others that are pretty close in my support system, one is moving to across the country to take a job in the next month. The other two have not found jobs yet but will also being moving away. The pretty much leaves me with no support system anymore aside from cutting which I'm trying to leave behind. As graduation gets closer I can already feel those that were usually around for me do not have time to just hang around when I need to cut.

I'm not sure what to do. I don't think I can open up to a new counselor and I know I can't go back to cutting but with how much I'm struggling lately I can't do it on my own.

sorry this is more venting than anything else i just needed to get this off my chest

 

[goldenviolet]

you are so not venting. you are evaluating your needs and trying to think ahead. very wise minded.

i was very anxious when i found out i had to stop seeing my last therapist. i cried. i use to call him up just to listen to his voice on the answering machine. he answered a few times! i told him what i was going through though. lol. he gave me a email. i got to write him... (it's been over two years now)... and though he rarely answers; and when does it's a polight greeting and wish to get and stay well. he also gave/let me give him a hug on the very last day. lol. i made him art work for his office and said goodbye. when i told him of my fears and upset feelings of seeing him for four years and then leaving: he exsplained that this is so common that counselors are already to help you change over to a new one. i interviewed my next therapist. now he's my new 'love'... (he's got four daughters all older than me)... if i knew my father or if he were alive, i'd hope he'd be just like him. oooh! you can ask for her help or references too.

next is your church. check into churches around your area. not just for services but ask about programs available. and if you can, do this with other churches in whom you respect to be of God. talk to the leadership and interview them too.

xo hope this helps xo dee

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

I agree with Dee. It sounds like you're trying to look at your options.

As I read your post it sounds like you know the area you want to find a job in. When it sounds like you are pretty sure, you can check out all the resources around there and when you go to interview, then maybe you could check out the resources (churches, therapists, support groups, etc.) there as well.

Finding a new therapist is never easy because we are comfortable with what we've been used too. Sometimes moves actually turn out to be better than what we could have expected.

 

[anteloperunner]

Actually I don't know what area I want to work in, I have a job offer right now in one city and the one that I am going for a visit on has plants all over the world so i could possibly end up almost anywhere if I accept that job. That is sort of what bothers me, I dont handle change very well so I like too have everything in place before anything happens.

Changing counselors is one of the hardest parts she has brought me through some really tough stuff. I am not sure if I'm more concerned about losing her or some of my friends not being able to just call them and they can come over (i have a few best friends that are constantly looking out for me) Jo has offered to help me find a new counselor but i have to obviously know exactly were I am gonna end up first.

church is gonna be another big change i hadnt thought about it until now. I am petty involved with my current church musicly so I guess that is another thing i have to worry about.

i have a little over two months still to figure this out...i guess im being stupid worrying about it this soon...i just really want to have it all figured out by spring break and everything place accept housing so all i have to do at the end of the year is worry about the FE exam.

today will be 77 days without cutting. but the last few day have been very hard and i would not have been able to do it without Jo and my best friends. I'm not sure I can continue if I lose the support system without putting a new one in place first