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Phoenix 417 - You say how you feel, however, even though you dont have to go into details you dont mention
~ what was the reason for your "VERY" rocky past. (Her fault? Your fault?)
~ How long you've been married or known her
Does it make a difference? It may, in regards to your feelings and if you've given it a chance.
Either way - You need to be true to your feelings. You don't want to live a lie in your marriage. Why would you think you won't go to heaven? Are you being truthful in the reasons you want out?
~ what was the reason for your "VERY" rocky past. (Her fault? Your fault?)
~ How long you've been married or known her
Does it make a difference? It may, in regards to your feelings and if you've given it a chance.
Either way - You need to be true to your feelings. You don't want to live a lie in your marriage. Why would you think you won't go to heaven? Are you being truthful in the reasons you want out?
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You can choose to love. I don't know the details of your marriage either, but I do know that if you truly submit to God, and ask Him to help you love her, and don't give up, it will pay off. It sounds like you may be believing a lie from the enemy, that there is someone out there who will have your exact personality, or who will never make you uncomfortable. I heard a Pastor say once that God doesn't put people together to make them happy, he puts them together to make them Holy. Instead of all those books you are reading, go directly to the scriptures. Ask the Lord to put that sacrificial love for your wife into your heart. Start with the premise that there is no one else out there for you who will make life easier. Marriage is what you put into it, and it may be that a breakthrough is just about to come, so the enemy is really working on you. Don't buy the lies.
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Thanks for your reply.. I'm am being truthful.. I haven't found anyone else... I'm just tired of being unhappy... I see other couples happy around me. I just want to be happy like them.
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Feelings come and go. There really is no way to stay true to your feelings, because that is an oxymoron. Feelings are deceptive, not true much of the time. How serious were you when you made your wedding vows? What are your expectations of your wife? Do you want someone who will require no work on your part? That person doesn't exist. Yourinnervoice, I mean you no disrespect, but how can you know anything about what is right or wrong for a christian. Phoenix, what do the scriptures say about it? There was no provision made for divorce simply because you don't think your personalities mesh. She's working on the meshing. Why don't you?
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What makes you think leaving your wife will make you a happy couple with someone else. You will still be part of the couple even if you find someone else to be with and you don't seem all that happy a person to me. Maybe you should see if you can make yourself and the wife you already have happy before you try something else.
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