Looking to become parents

[ariekitten]

My husband and I have been married 6 years. He's from Europe, I'm in Texas (American) and we've settled near my folks here in Hill Country Texas. It's been rough, because before marriage, we both discussed our goals and desires. He's a licensed missionary, from big missionary family, contracted Lyme Disease on mission, and became ill with mental health before I met him. He goes to the doctor and takes care of his health, but typically people with mental health are advised not to have children.
I'm not really sure why, though I know society's reasons for advising this, but my husband and I agreed however many The Lord would give, we would accept and raise with the help of our church, community, and family (especially God!). I know God promised me children, since I was a young teen praying for my future, my spouse, and my life as an adult. He promised that if I would remain faithful to Him, he would make me a mother.
I often read and re-read the story of Hannah, and there are some other good ones like Rachel, Sarah, etc. I feel like these years we've been married and trying (not using methods to thwart God, seeking doctor to make sure we're healthy, making healthy life choices and being good with finances, to each other, etc)...it's been some kind of test.
Still no children. We're not going to IVF, because I believe that's not God's way. We haven't been "doing methods" like other couples trying, but we definitely have been faithful to keep up our marital duties. We do love each other, and we struggle like everyone else, but we're working on being closer to God and doing what's right, and treating each other how The Bible outlines spouses should. I guess I would welcome any prayers, advice, or encouragement on this topic, as it can be very difficult to wait on God's timing, and we know our ways are not His, and His timing is perfect!! Thanks!

 

[PloverWing]

Infertility can have a number of causes, as I'm sure you know. Have you both been tested for the various possible causes? The results of those tests might tell how you to proceed next.

I know that infertility can be really hard, emotionally, and I'm praying for you.

 

[ariekitten]

My husband and I were tested for marriage for STDs, and other general health screenings. We are both healthy, and clear. The OBGYN for high-risk said because of my rare blood disorder I am (obviously high-risk) more prone to miscarriages, which I believe we've had a couple. My mother died birthing me, but the doctor brought her back. All of my sisters (4 sisters) nearly died having their children, but have 11 healthy kids between them. My family is national study case for this blood disorder, but I've never even had one problem with it, and I don't even register as needing the high-risk doctor, except for on paper.
My husband's mom is a natural doctor, but even as a Christian she is skeptical about him having kids, so I cannot just ask her for advice. I feel like when God's ready (as He doesn't just promise willy-nilly), He will break through any/all issues we face, even medically. As a Christian, I know He works miracles. I've seen bodies healed out of nowhere. We know someone who was clinically dead and suddenly wasn't (after hours in a body bag). I don't feel like it's biblical to my understanding of faith for me to begin searching every detail of my marriage or our bodies trying to find a flaw, but this is the answer to your question - No, we are healthy. There is no reason according to our specialist why we shouldn't be able to conceive/carry/birth healthy children to our heart's content.
I sometimes wonder if it isn't something spiritually clogging the works, but...I do pray constantly. Thank you for your prayers, too.