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Hi,

I’m feeling pretty down about my current situation. Most of my friends have moved away and I’ve lost contact with them and a lot of them have passed. So really I’m practically alone in this world. It would help if I could get some advice or at least a prayer for direction.

I think I’ll go back to when I was seventeen; I dropped out of school and started playing lead guitar in a Rock and Roll band. It was great for the first five years then alcohol, drugs and stress began to get to me. In all I played bars for about twelve years until I just could not take it any more. My drinking and drug use became a big problem.
Many days I would wake up and couldn’t remember how I got home. One day when I awoke I noticed that the ends of my fingers had turned blue. I don’t know what caused that but I know it couldn’t be good.

Things got so bad that I had to quit the band. I really loved music but I am not the kind of person that can work in bars without it affecting me negatively.

One of the first things I did after quitting the band was to read the Bible from front to back. I was unemployed for several years after that. All of the alcohol and drugs had affected my mind. I became very anxious and avoided interacting with people. Kind of like some of the stories you might hear about shell-shocked veterans.

I did receive a blessing from God. I found a job that allowed me to work from home. I was and still am too anxious to hold a regular job. I worked for a Christian business that collected donations for women and children. My job was to call people in my area and ask for donations.

I did not make a lot of money but it provided my basic needs. I worked for that company for close to twenty years. Several months ago we were laid-off. Now I don’t know how I am going to survive.

I have been praying that God will show me the path to take, but he hasn’t answered me. Maybe it isn’t the right time yet? He has delivered me many times in the past of that I am sure.

I would like to mention that I have been free from drugs, alcohol, and tobacco for many years. Thank you Jesus!

I would appreciate any advice, or prayers.
 
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I'm in a similar boat. How long have you been withdrawn? It's horrible man, as I'm sure you know. One thing I do know is that God has been trying to get me out of my shell and I just keep on crawling back in. May be (and I mean just may be) God is using the money situation to make you get out. If this is true, then He will provide but you need to start moving.
 
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Hi,

I’m feeling pretty down about my current situation. Most of my friends have moved away and I’ve lost contact with them and a lot of them have passed. So really I’m practically alone in this world. It would help if I could get some advice or at least a prayer for direction.

I think I’ll go back to when I was seventeen; I dropped out of school and started playing lead guitar in a Rock and Roll band. It was great for the first five years then alcohol, drugs and stress began to get to me. In all I played bars for about twelve years until I just could not take it any more. My drinking and drug use became a big problem.
Many days I would wake up and couldn’t remember how I got home. One day when I awoke I noticed that the ends of my fingers had turned blue. I don’t know what caused that but I know it couldn’t be good.

Things got so bad that I had to quit the band. I really loved music but I am not the kind of person that can work in bars without it affecting me negatively.

One of the first things I did after quitting the band was to read the Bible from front to back. I was unemployed for several years after that. All of the alcohol and drugs had affected my mind. I became very anxious and avoided interacting with people. Kind of like some of the stories you might hear about shell-shocked veterans.

I did receive a blessing from God. I found a job that allowed me to work from home. I was and still am too anxious to hold a regular job. I worked for a Christian business that collected donations for women and children. My job was to call people in my area and ask for donations.

I did not make a lot of money but it provided my basic needs. I worked for that company for close to twenty years. Several months ago we were laid-off. Now I don’t know how I am going to survive.

I have been praying that God will show me the path to take, but he hasn’t answered me. Maybe it isn’t the right time yet? He has delivered me many times in the past of that I am sure.

I would like to mention that I have been free from drugs, alcohol, and tobacco for many years. Thank you Jesus!

I would appreciate any advice, or prayers.
This may sound harsh and it is not intended that way, but I think you may need to see a therapist about why your trying now to avoid people. Seems like you have been doing that for a long time and are maybe missing out on some good things by doing that. I'm not saying you need to go get a job where your always in front of people. But hiding all the time isn't healthy. I'm glad to hear your off the drugs and stuff and have been for a long time. That's wonderful.
I would seek out a career consultation maybe from a vocational school or college counselor. They could tell you what would fit with your personality and interests.
Take care.
 
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I'm in a similar boat. How long have you been withdrawn? It's horrible man, as I'm sure you know. One thing I do know is that God has been trying to get me out of my shell and I just keep on crawling back in. May be (and I mean just may be) God is using the money situation to make you get out. If this is true, then He will provide but you need to start moving.
I withdrew when I decided to quit drinking, because I felt like the friends I had at that time would be a bad influence.
 
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This may sound harsh and it is not intended that way, but I think you may need to see a therapist about why your trying now to avoid people. Seems like you have been doing that for a long time and are maybe missing out on some good things by doing that. I'm not saying you need to go get a job where your always in front of people. But hiding all the time isn't healthy. I'm glad to hear your off the drugs and stuff and have been for a long time. That's wonderful.
I would seek out a career consultation maybe from a vocational school or college counselor. They could tell you what would fit with your personality and interests.
Take care.
No, what you said doesn't sound harsh at all. I don't need to go to a therapist, because I already know why I avoid people. Thanks all for your replies.
 
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I withdrew when I decided to quit drinking, because I felt like the friends I had at that time would be a bad influence.
Same here, pretty much. After withdrawing from my old social group I have found it very hard to find a new one. It's like I'm different from most Christians I meet and I don't 'fit the mold' so to speak. In the past I've been able to muster up enough courage to give it a go a few times and I'd do things like sign up for ministry work in a local church, etc. Overall the people I've run into were fairly nice but the fact is that I'm a christian with 'problems' and after a while most of these people started treating me like they would only touch me with a 10 foot pole. I'm still having a hard time trying to figure out if it was just my imagination or if these people were really so stereotypical as I thought. I know... that's not exactly encouraging but it's the way I feel...
 
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Same here, pretty much. After withdrawing from my old social group I have found it very hard to find a new one. It's like I'm different from most Christians I meet and I don't 'fit the mold' so to speak. In the past I've been able to muster up enough courage to give it a go a few times and I'd do things like sign up for ministry work in a local church, etc. Overall the people I've run into were fairly nice but the fact is that I'm a christian with 'problems' and after a while most of these people started treating me like they would only touch me with a 10 foot pole. I'm still having a hard time trying to figure out if it was just my imagination or if these people were really so stereotypical as I thought. I know... that's not exactly encouraging but it's the way I feel...


It sounds like you were around the wrong people. Aren’t Christians supposed to embrace the hurting, and broken hearted? I think you were at the wrong church. I would like to encourage you to keep looking. I went to church for the first time in many years last week. It didn’t take me long to decide that it wasn’t the right church for me. I believe if you trust your feelings it’s not too hard to figure out were you belong. I know I’m not giving up. When I find the right church I will know it. You said that you got the feeling that some people thought of you as a Christian with problems. Don’t all people have problems? I believe we are all in the same boat so to speak. It’s just that some people are better than others at hiding their problems.
 
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It sounds like you were around the wrong people. Aren’t Christians supposed to embrace the hurting, and broken hearted? I think you were at the wrong church. I would like to encourage you to keep looking. I went to church for the first time in many years last week. It didn’t take me long to decide that it wasn’t the right church for me. I believe if you trust your feelings it’s not too hard to figure out were you belong. I know I’m not giving up. When I find the right church I will know it. You said that you got the feeling that some people thought of you as a Christian with problems. Don’t all people have problems? I believe we are all in the same boat so to speak. It’s just that some people are better than others at hiding their problems.
May be so. Good luck with finding a new church. I think I'm going to start looking for one too.

God bless.
 
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