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[onyx123]

Hi, I'm new to these forums and am trying to find mature borderline christians who have managed to overcome and are living normal lives now. I don't tell anyone my diagnosis and have isolated myself now for years for fear of acting out like I did before over abandonment etc... I know God doesn't want this lonely life for me, but it seems safer than going out and meeting new people who can't possible understand what I feel. This is the first forum I've ever posted on so I hope I'm doing this right. I'll check back later to see if anyone has responded.

 

[kathleen5827]

I don't have bpd, but I know there are ministries out there where people have had quite a lot of success overcoming bpd or have overcome it completely. If you don't get a response on here, look up deliverance ministries. If you can't find one, I can tell you a good one.

 

[onyx123]

Hi Kathleen, thank you for your thoughts. Since I've been in therapy off and on for so many years I guess I'd just given up on the idea, but I know I should make a few calls to some Christian organizations to see if they have something special for borderlines.

 

[drjean]

Please don't give up on therapy! To be able to go out and feel comfortable will come from learning what triggers you (pushes your buttons) and to know these things and be able to calm yourself so you don't act out...nor feel like you need to escape.

Therapy is work, find a therapist who will gently lead you to where you need to be--sometimes even while you kick and scream! No...really, therapy might be something you need to resign yourself to for life...relearning/training your brain that God really loves you and keeps you, and nothing else is so important that we need to solve the issues yourself. (Does that make sense to you?)

I don't know who gave you this diagnosis, but when contacting someone for future help, don't tell him this label... let him have access to the records and read for himself and decide the best treatment plan for you after he consults with you, imo

 

[onyx123]

Hi Drjean, thanks for your reply, sorry didn't check my email yesterday. I guess you're right about not giving up on therapy. The idea of starting up with it again makes me tired just thinking about it though. But I must admit, I've only ever had secular therapists, none that advertized themselves as Christians. Funny, if I really believe God has all the answers (and I do), why haven't I ever given his people the chance to help me? Interesting.