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Looking for esteem/worth in the wrong places

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Why is it that more often than not it is those who have the most beautiful gifting to minister to others that are held most securely in chains of bondage?


People with beautiful giftings often don't realise their inner beauty, as a consequence they wonder around looking for love and settle for something which looks good on the outside but really brings death. People tend to settle for this because they are too afraid to receive more.



Why do we have to experience so much pain in this life? Why do we have to carry around so much baggage and damage inside of us? Why do we have to become lost before we can be found? Why can’t this life just bruise and hurt us less?

When I think about the human condition I feel so sad, we are all so desperate in our needs and frailties. We need to be loved and chase after love in all the wrong places. We need to feel esteemed and look for status in the world. We need to feel necessary in such an immense creation that we happily live a life bound in chains in order to fulfill this goal. We all do. Why? Why do we try to achieve all of this through our own might and in our own way when all it does is push us further away from the One who can still all our fears and heal all of our wounds?


What God wants from us, what we need for ourselves seems to go against human instinct and understanding. Our need for self-preservation, love and esteem drives us onwards when God is saying to us, “Stop!”
“Stop striving, stop trying, stop reaching and just let it go. Give it all over to Me, trust in Me to heal you, to comfort you, to esteem you, to love you; believe that I know best and follow Me.”
So simple yet so hard.
This is a painful love that comes with giving your heart over to God, the type of love that is bittersweet. Bitter in that it requires change and sacrifice that we may feel too stretched to give, overwhelmed because we may experience more pain than that which we knew whilst we were in the world but…
sweet too. Sweet because overshadowing all of the above is a love so real and pure that to taste it is to feel your heart-break and heal again in an instant. An acceptance so complete that you know that you have found your home. A fullness so heavy that it can only be the weight of God’s glory living and growing within you day-by-day. This is what I want for my friend, this is what I want for all of us.
Yes, the world may seem like an easier road to walk when we compare it to the sacrifices that God will ask of us to make. But this world has no meaning and definitely no love except through Him. I see more clearly that our fears and our desire to be loved so wholly, intensely and unconditionally is cruelly used by the deceiver to keep us bound in chains. Today, this week I want to pray against this in my life, in your life; join me and pray.

Prayer
Dear Father,
Please have mercy on all joined in this prayer in one accord. Please show us that You are God and that before You there is no other. Lord God, let us see that You are the Way, the Truth and the Life and that without You all routes lead to death and destruction.
Lord, let us know that You are the Eternal Comforter and Lover of our soul. That there is no love greater or stronger than the love that You have for Your children. Lord, I pray that You will fill us up with hope, eternal hope in You which will bring about fruitfulness.
Lord, I pray that You will bear us up in the midst of the storms that we face, so that when all is said and done, we may live and stand to glorify You.
Lord, may it please You to answer this prayer and bring life where there is death.
In Yeshua’s Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.
 

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Beautiful Giftings

Why is it that more often than not it is those who have the most beautiful gifting to minister to others that are held most securely in chains of bondage?


People with beautiful giftings often don't realise their inner beauty, as a consequence they wonder around looking for love and settle for something which looks good on the outside but really brings death. People tend to settle for this because they are too afraid to receive more.



Why do we have to experience so much pain in this life? Why do we have to carry around so much baggage and damage inside of us? Why do we have to become lost before we can be found? Why can’t this life just bruise and hurt us less?

When I think about the human condition I feel so sad, we are all so desperate in our needs and frailties. We need to be loved and chase after love in all the wrong places. We need to feel esteemed and look for status in the world. We need to feel necessary in such an immense creation that we happily live a life bound in chains in order to fulfill this goal. We all do. Why? Why do we try to achieve all of this through our own might and in our own way when all it does is push us further away from the One who can still all our fears and heal all of our wounds?


What God wants from us, what we need for ourselves seems to go against human instinct and understanding. Our need for self-preservation, love and esteem drives us onwards when God is saying to us, “Stop!”
“Stop striving, stop trying, stop reaching and just let it go. Give it all over to Me, trust in Me to heal you, to comfort you, to esteem you, to love you; believe that I know best and follow Me.”
So simple yet so hard.
This is a painful love that comes with giving your heart over to God, the type of love that is bittersweet. Bitter in that it requires change and sacrifice that we may feel too stretched to give, overwhelmed because we may experience more pain than that which we knew whilst we were in the world but…
sweet too. Sweet because overshadowing all of the above is a love so real and pure that to taste it is to feel your heart-break and heal again in an instant. An acceptance so complete that you know that you have found your home. A fullness so heavy that it can only be the weight of God’s glory living and growing within you day-by-day. This is what I want for my friend, this is what I want for all of us.
Yes, the world may seem like an easier road to walk when we compare it to the sacrifices that God will ask of us to make. But this world has no meaning and definitely no love except through Him. I see more clearly that our fears and our desire to be loved so wholly, intensely and unconditionally is cruelly used by the deceiver to keep us bound in chains. Today, this week I want to pray against this in my life, in your life; join me and pray.

Prayer
Dear Father,
Please have mercy on all joined in this prayer in one accord. Please show us that You are God and that before You there is no other. Lord God, let us see that You are the Way, the Truth and the Life and that without You all routes lead to death and destruction.
Lord, let us know that You are the Eternal Comforter and Lover of our soul. That there is no love greater or stronger than the love that You have for Your children. Lord, I pray that You will fill us up with hope, eternal hope in You which will bring about fruitfulness.
Lord, I pray that You will bear us up in the midst of the storms that we face, so that when all is said and done, we may live and stand to glorify You.
Lord, may it please You to answer this prayer and bring life where there is death.
In Yeshua’s Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.

The key is to always remember and to OWN it, that, We are a child of the most high God ! No matter what happens in this life, this fact based in Christ, can never ever change. If you know CHrist personally , this is what carries us thru .
 
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I don't know if God directed me to this thread to convict me of my sin. I certainly do look for esteem and worth in the things of this lost and dying world. And the irony is that my idolatrous love of worldly pleasure brings me nothing but frustration, emptiness, and heartache. Seeking the approval and acceptance of other people for my sense of self-worth brings me nothing but misery. But I still persist in my foolishness.
 
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Thanks for posting this. It is so true of me too. I tend to look to others to boost my self worth especially friends and family but it never works. I always want people to like me and then when they reject or hurt me I end up devastated. I know I need to look to God alone as He will never let me down or reject me.:bow::bow::bow::bow:
 
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