Looking for advice....

[rainbowbrite]

Any guys in the military or military wives/girlfriends, or anyone willing to give some Godly counsel, I need some advice....

My boyfriend of 2 and a half years is considering joining either the Air Force or the Guard. I don't like the idea of active duty in the Air Force, but it something he is very passionate about. He says if I absolutely cannot handle it, he will stick with the guard because it will be easier on our relationship, and he doesn't want to lose me. However, I don't want to discourage him from doing something that he feels so strongly about. At the same time, I don't know if I could handle that life for six years. Anyone been in a similar situation or just have any advice? Oh by the way, he is 24 and I am 20, and we are beginning to talk marriage.

 

[Iktomi]

Well, I'm not in the situation but have been in something similar.
All I an tell you is that both of you have to have God's will as your number one determining factor. Regardless of the difficulty, if it's God's will that he do this, then you should support him. You need to get together in prayer! Maybe not what you wanted to hear, but it's the MOST important thing. Persue God first!

 

[AmeriLovesJesus]

Any guys in the military or military wives/girlfriends, or anyone willing to give some Godly counsel, I need some advice....

My boyfriend of 2 and a half years is considering joining either the Air Force or the Guard. I don't like the idea of active duty in the Air Force, but it something he is very passionate about. He says if I absolutely cannot handle it, he will stick with the guard because it will be easier on our relationship, and he doesn't want to lose me. However, I don't want to discourage him from doing something that he feels so strongly about. At the same time, I don't know if I could handle that life for six years. Anyone been in a similar situation or just have any advice? Oh by the way, he is 24 and I am 20, and we are beginning to talk marriage.

I have been in the situation... My ex was in in the Army... Its not so hard at all... When they are away it gives you time to yourself.. and time with God.. It actually helps the relationship grow... and you get to travel everywhere... I want to join the military when Im done school.. Have not made the desicion yet...

I have always wanted to be apart of it.. so maybe thats why it has been easier for me..

If he joins the National Gaurd... He'll go away one weekend and month and Two weeks a year... but He will be one of the first to go to war... sometimes.. all depends on the job he takes up... and or course if he called in..

He will be able to live a normal life... with you.. and work at home also.. just once a month he'll go away....

Now actiuve duty... You will have to get married... and you will get a nice home.. for free on or off base... and you will get to choose options to where you'll want to move.. sometimes.. They have places for military wives and girlfriends.. to hang out.. and meet...

They have military balls too!! So you can dress up really pretty with hubby in uniform!!! ... Like a fairy tale!!! LOL!!

Have anymore questions Ill will be sure to answer!!!

 

[rainbowbrite]

I appreciate the advice. I know there are a lot of good things about being active duty as opposed to the guard. The only thing about the guard that I see that's actually better is that he wouldn't be stationed somewhere in another state. The thing is, I never even dreamed that I would somehow be involved in the military, so it's going to be a serious change of plans/readjustment for me. That's life though! I guess it would be pretty boring if there was never a change in plans

Just out of curiosity, what are you in school for?

 

[Pastor Frank]

The real problem is that you are considering marriage and if you are a Christian,your boyfriends hell-driven desire to join the military will make this impossible.Christians are not allowed to marry non-Christians or fake Christians who don't understand even the most basic essence of Christianity,for a very basic reason.Religiously perverted husbands drag their wives away from their beliefs and in time destroy their relationship with God.

The military teaches hate,revenge and war.Jesus taught love,forgiveness and peace.Your boyfriend needs to decide what he wants to serve,the American flag or the Jewish cross.He can't serve two masters that have completely different beliefs.The very first time he tries to "do good to those who hate you" as Jesus taught,he will be court martialed.

Undoubtably your boyfriend has a huge forgiveness problem and for that reason alone,he'll make a terrible husband.People who "turn the other cheek" as Jesus taught,don't go around killing people or helping others carry out their murderous plans.Tell your boyfriend that he really needs to make this Bible verse one of the cornerstones of his life,"IF YOU DO NOT FORGIVE NEITHER WILL YOUR FATHER IN HEAVEN FORGIVE YOUR SINS". The big advantage of forgiving,or even better,loving your enemies as Jesus commanded ,is that you don't get your clothes all covered with blood while you're trying to murder them.

 

[rainbowbrite]

First of all, both of us are Christians and are VERY strong in our faith. Secondly, he doesn't have a "hell-bent" desire to join the military out of hate and revenge. I know he is a very forgiving person from experiences we have had in the time we've known each other.

So I take it you believe we should never go to war over anything? Yes God is a God of love and mercy and forgiveness, but He is also a God of wrath, justice, and judgement. Now I know we are not to take God's judgement into our own hands, but we do have an obligation to uphold justice. Are we not to punish those that attack our country? Are we to sit here and do nothing to protect ourselves from our enemies? What about the old testament? Did God's character change from the time of the OT to the NT? Because He obviously supported war in the OT.

I personally hate war, and no person in his or her right mind could say they love it. However, I believe it is sometimes necessary. It's quite bold to call him a "fake Christian" and say he has a forgiveness problem all because he wants to join the military. I don't appreciate the attack on our character and our faith. I also don't appreciate you saying he will make a terrible husband.

I realize that war and the military are a hot debate among Christians, and as far as that is concerned, we may have to agree to disagree and tolerate one another's beliefs. What I will not tolerate is an attack on the character and faith of my boyfriend or myself.

 

[Rafael]

First of all, both of us are Christians and are VERY strong in our faith. Secondly, he doesn't have a "hell-bent" desire to join the military out of hate and revenge. I know he is a very forgiving person from experiences we have had in the time we've known each other.

So I take it you believe we should never go to war over anything? Yes God is a God of love and mercy and forgiveness, but He is also a God of wrath, justice, and judgement. Now I know we are not to take God's judgement into our own hands, but we do have an obligation to uphold justice. Are we not to punish those that attack our country? Are we to sit here and do nothing to protect ourselves from our enemies? What about the old testament? Did God's character change from the time of the OT to the NT? Because He obviously supported war in the OT.

I personally hate war, and no person in his or her right mind could say they love it. However, I believe it is sometimes necessary. It's quite bold to call him a "fake Christian" and say he has a forgiveness problem all because he wants to join the military. I don't appreciate the attack on our character and our faith. I also don't appreciate you saying he will make a terrible husband.

I realize that war and the military are a hot debate among Christians, and as far as that is concerned, we may have to agree to disagree and tolerate one another's beliefs. What I will not tolerate is an attack on the character and faith of my boyfriend or myself.

You go girl, amen. We could not have our religious freedoms without those called to protect those said freedoms.

 

[Techbot]

The military teaches hate,revenge and war.

not to make this into a flame thread or to hijack but thats completely incredible how you can turn someone serving their country into a demonized act. I know plenty of God fearing Christians serving their country who would laugh at your statement and even be appalled and hurt at the comment.

I sincerely hope that rainbowbrite bypasses that entire post.