Longest gap without intercourse

Bridget1 · Oct 18, 2012

What is the longest gap where you not had intercourse during your marriage.

A friend and her hubby both have a low libido despite being healthy. In their thirties and have not had intercourse for a year. They remain very close to each emotionally.

Geoffc64 · Oct 18, 2012

Our longest break was about 3-4 months, but it was due to my wife's ill health (recovering from major surgery).

Niffer · Oct 18, 2012

2 months, (postpartum)

JRSut1000 · Oct 18, 2012

80 days, postpartum because we had a girl

Luther073082 · Oct 18, 2012

JRSut1000 said:
80 days, postpartum because we had a girl

?? Is the postpartum longer with a girl then it is with a boy or something?

JRSut1000 · Oct 18, 2012

According to Leviticus, yes. 80 for a girl, 40 for a boy.

Darkhorse · Oct 18, 2012

Two months. My wife had clinical depression, and we didn't know it yet.

Verve · Oct 18, 2012

JRSut1000 said:
According to Leviticus, yes. 80 for a girl, 40 for a boy.

Wait...you have to stop having sex after you give birth after all the ickyness of being pregnant and having to go through with labor?

If that's true, I have just found myself with another reason to adopt.

And to the OP:
I have been married less than a month. I don't think my answer would be helpful.

Do they want to have intercourse? Maybe it's a stress or schedule thing? One whole year is a long time....

Nienna_Lady_of_Tears · Oct 18, 2012

Four months. I have a condition called autoimmune progesterone dermatitis and some months it just won't clear. Also it turns out I was allergic to him, as well as both latex and non-latex condoms.

*sigh*

And before we got married we had these ideas about twice a day. I give him once or twice a month and am in pain and rashing out for the rest of the month.

Cute Tink · Oct 18, 2012

We have had to go a couple weeks due to illness before, but other than that, not more than a few days at most.

xDenax · Oct 19, 2012

thankful_in_VT said:
Wait...you have to stop having sex after you give birth after all the ickyness of being pregnant and having to go through with labor?

If that's true, I have just found myself with another reason to adopt.

There is no reason you have to do this just because someone else does it.

As for the OP, if the couple is fine without it then it's not a problem.

dorig59 · Oct 19, 2012

Are you sure that your friend & her husband are close?

dorig59 · Oct 19, 2012

thankful_in_VT said:
Wait...you have to stop having sex after you give birth after all the ickyness of being pregnant and having to go through with labor?

If that's true, I have just found myself with another reason to adopt.

And to the OP:
I have been married less than a month. I don't think my answer would be helpful.

Do they want to have intercourse? Maybe it's a stress or schedule thing? One whole year is a long time....

You don't have to wait that long to have sex after giving birth. JRSut said that because she & her husband follow Old Testament law for whatever reason. My husband & I had 6 babies (all grown now!) I think the most we ever waited was 2 weeks or so. However, if you don't want to have kids for any reason, there's nothing wrong with that either. Just don't let this be your reason cuz that's not necessary.

JRSut1000 · Oct 19, 2012

Dont forget that a womans body is still healing after giving a baby, know how traumatic that is? I was in pain for at least a month afterwards (but yes babies are totally worth it!). Even medically, its recommended to wait at least 6weeks postpartum so that a womans body is properly healed both externally (tearing or episiotomy) and internally (obviously the uterus and everything in there returning to normal).

dorig59 · Oct 19, 2012

Yes, that's true JRSut. I maybe shouldn't have minimized it so much, but I just happened to have a very easy time, so it wasn't a problem for me. Usually 6 weeks is what docs recommend, but there can be other circumstances such as you mentioned. And please know I did not mean any disrespect to you either in my previous statement.

JRSut1000 · Oct 19, 2012

No worries dorig Every woman/couple feels differently on the topic of postpartum for various reasons from physical to emotion to energetic or just plain drained or religious.

LinkH · Oct 19, 2012

Probably more than two months after a baby was born. A woman needs some time to heal up. After she'd healed up, she went through a time of and stress with our life situation and a relatively young baby that seemed like it lasted a month. Maybe it was a couple of weeks. Eventually, I had a talk with her that that wasn't acceptable and she realized it and we got out of that slump.

JRSut1000 · Oct 19, 2012

You expected sex from your wife after just a couple weeks?? It is acceptable for a woman not to be able to have sex weeks after giving birth. Even God allows for that in the Bible.

WolfGate · Oct 20, 2012

Had a stretch of two months when she had temporary duty in Sweden and I was back here. Another roughly two months during a rough patch early in our marriage. And the 6 weeks or so after each kid.

JRSut1000 · Oct 20, 2012

Oh wow, how could I forget that? I'm revising my answer - we actually went 6 months without sex because of DH's deployment.

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