Long Distance Marriages/Courting

[SelfProtect]

Hello all!

I am searching for advise and experience on long distance marriages. I personally know 2 people who are in a similiar situation and they seem very happy. I plan on calling them specifically soon.

Anway, for those who have been following my story... my bf wants to work hard for the next 5 years then retire. He plans on carrying this out by working overseas in Iraq, crazy hugh? Anyway, the way it works is he will be gone for 4 months then they pay for him to come back 2 weeks then he will be gone again for 4 months. This is his plan for 5 years. By then my kids will be close to finishing high school.

So what do you guys think? Is it realistic to think we can make it?

 

[IslandBreeze]

How old is your boyfriend, and what makes him think he'll be able to completely retire after working for just 5 years?

 

[GirlForChrist]

I'll be praying for you..cause I dont know what to say or think about this one....

 

[SelfProtect]

Cammie,
He is 45 (I'm 35). He has a budget/plan. Maybe its not realistic but its his dream. It could be possible. I disagree with him. I think we must enjoy life one day at a time. He wants to go after this 5 year plan THEN enjoy life. Neither one of us is right or wrong, the question is are we compatible?


GirlForChristGirl,
Thanks for your prayers.

 

[Knight]

Ask anyone who has a spouse in the military.... It can be done but it takes a lot of work.

There are several women on CF who are in this situation.....

 

[SelfProtect]

Knight,
Whats CF?

 

[rach]

CF is just Christian Forums, just shortened.

 

[ashlee]

You're boyfriend is already married, to his job that is. He doesn't seem to be keeping you in mind in his future. In my opinion I don't think your relationship will work because 6 weeks out of a year is not enough to have a fulfilling relationship. Do you think you will be happy with out him there? There is great potential for you or him to stray. The Bible talks in marraige about abstaining from maritial relations, but only for a short time so that you wont be tempted. Going four months with out youre spouse, will certainly open you and him up to temptation. Think carefully before proceeding.