lonely and empty

[seangoh]

hi ppl, today i just saw a movie "The Terminal". Acted by Tom Hanks and Catherine Zeta Jones..well, the scene didn't turn out to what i wanted. I had wanted both of them to "live happily ever after" but then she got back to her old flame. After the movie i just felt lonely and empty, for lack of better words to describe and i thought it was a bad movie because it didn't end the way i wanted it to end. Oh well, i'm just spewing out my current feelings now..i don't know how come i feel this way, but yup, i feel lonely without someone else. And at the same time i sense that i am scared at starting a relationship...maybe because i stress too much that marriage is a big thing(and yes it is) and so i would want a suitable one..but as a result i end up waiting.

Any of you ppl feel this way?

 

[eaglerider4031]

yeah, i know exactly what you're going through. ever since the breakup of my first "love" relationship about a year ago, i've gotten over the relationship but the loneliness is definately still there. and just as you feel seangoh, i am terrified of starting a new relationship with someone, especially since this time i want the relationship to be Christ-centered instead of us-centered as my first one was. the thing about a Christ-centered relationship is that it is completely in His hands, so i try not to worry about it because i'm sure he's got the perfect girl already picked out for me and he's just waiting for me to get my act together before he sends her my way. and besides, he's got MUCH better taste in girls than i do! anyway, i know what you're going through and all i can tell you is to leave it up to God and don't be surprised when he knocks your socks off with "the one." Peace!

 

[TriptychR]

Yeah, it's a paradox. You yearn for a relationship so badly, yet force yourself to wait for that right one. Sometimes it feels like you're searching for that one best apple... in a banana plantation.

What we must do is give our problems and feelings to God, but I know it's easier said and done. I certainly wish I could learn to do so more quickly. But hang in there; the feelings don't last forever and God does have a perfect plan whether we can see it or not.

 

[mina]

yes, i feel that way. We were meant to be relational beings but everything doesn't always work out. I feel lonely and empty often. I spend lots of time with God but while we are in the world we need other people too. I know what happens when I try to force a relationship or pursue it on my own. It makes me even more lonely and brokenhearted so I guess I have to wait on God to bring about His will in my life. It's really hard to be patient though.

 

[seangoh]

thanks for all the comments and thoughts..at least i know i'm not alone..

 

[Stanfi]

In a way, I think it is nice to hear about a movie that accurately depicts things. Everytime that I see a movie where the guy ends up with the girl, I always think to myself "Only in the movies". I think it gets old when Hollywood does not even come close to reflecting real life.

We get built up with all of this false sense of hope, driven by our emotions. Then we feel flat and empty when our life does not turn out like a movie script.

I say time to take off the rose colored glasses. Learn to handle our emotions, and not let movies or music affect them, the way we often do.

There are not God given promises in a movie script or a song. Only a writer's dream.

 

[seangoh]

well said mr stance! will keep that in mind.

 

[TriptychR]

In a way, I think it is nice to hear about a movie that accurately depicts things. Everytime that I see a movie where the guy ends up with the girl, I always think to myself "Only in the movies". I think it gets old when Hollywood does not even come close to reflecting real life.

We get built up with all of this false sense of hope, driven by our emotions. Then we feel flat and empty when our life does not turn out like a movie script.

I say time to take off the rose colored glasses. Learn to handle our emotions, and not let movies or music affect them, the way we often do.

There are not God given promises in a movie script or a song. Only a writer's dream.

True. That's why I stay away from blatant romance films such as "Love, Actually." I end up just panning the whole thing and feeling depressed in the end. Of course, it can still find a way to hit you when you don't expect it, such as in "The Terminal."

 

[Katty]

hi ppl, today i just saw a movie "The Terminal". Acted by Tom Hanks and Catherine Zeta Jones..well, the scene didn't turn out to what i wanted. I had wanted both of them to "live happily ever after" but then she got back to her old flame.

You just gave away the ending of the movie! out: Teehee, sorry I just had to...

~Katty

 

[Captain_Scott]

i understand dude.. i went to that movie with a girl i know...shes beutiful and i wanted something to work out...and it didnt....so looking back on the movie and her...its kinda sad to me....All i know is that Romans 8:28 still holds true

Take care

 

[peaceblossom]

This exactly why I watch off beat comedy that may touch on romance but nothing really happens. My psyche can't take the romance anymore. It really does have an effect on you....well atleast for me they do. I am guilty of wanting movies to turn out a certain way then feeling empty behind it. There's merit to mrstace's statement. But I have to admit, I find myself watching a love story sometimes.