Living with In-Laws

We did for a couple of days. My wife and them learned to hate each other very fast. I was fine with it as I knew it was temporary.

After my mom passed - my wife and I lived with my dad for about 3 months in order to help get the estate in order/get everything organized/etc. But - it really wasn't like an open-ended thing/it was done as a favor on our part...so not sure how much I can advise ya on that.

Its a very complex subject because there are many varying factors involved.

In my case my wife and I live with my parents who recently bought a bigger house. Its a long house. Our bedrooms are at opposite ends of the house so we have plenty of privacy. At first it made both of us a bit stressed because getting used to your spouses parents is not easy. And theres the privacy thing of course. But my wife has gotten use to my parents and shes ok with living with them.

My parents are the exception. They respect our privacy. Really the biggest problem with the old house was it was small an our bedroom was on the main floor near everything where people tended to be. So "intimacy" was often awkward. I'd say for most living with parents is not ideal, at least in this country. Only you know your own parents well enough to know if they will work well with your spouse.

The big thing of course will be kids. Having kids and raising them in a parents house will cause stress I imagine. So in that case most probably get their own place. For us this house was bought so that we can inherit it when my parents die. So its cheaper to live here and pay rent since its alot more just to rent somewhere.

During the first part of our marriage there was no way I would have wanted to live with my in-laws. After my father-in-law died and my mother-in-law's health deteriorated, I did suggest to my husband that she come live with us (yeah, surprised me too that I did that!!). People change as they get older and the change in my mother-in-law due to her health was something I could live with. Plus I was more mature as well to be able to handle it.

Best wishes to all who live with their in-laws

I wouldn't advise it unless you absolutely have to. There are issues with privacy, in-laws knowing about your money and financial situations, raising children can be an issue because there may be disagreements in regards to discipline and raising the children in general. You have to share common areas such as living room, kitchen, etc...possibly bathrooms. The biggest is privacy. My friend's mother n law tried to clean their room and bathroom. She was nosy and there were many disagreements. It was a very stressful environment. They ended up moving before their first child was born.

I am sure that everyone's circumstances are different, but I feel in our case which was only a period of between 2-4 weeks that we realized that it isn't for everyone. my wife refers to that period as a vacation. I feel like it was worse for her than me as we were living with my parents.

NO and I'm very glad we don't!! I love my parents, but they are NOT easy to live with, and my husband and I cherish our privacy and independence way too much. We'd probably rather live in a cardboard box.

My in laws at the time me and my now hubby were dating were really hard on me, they judged me on my occultic/drug/drinking past. They would not meet me to see that the old man was dead, all they cared about was destroying our future plans to wed. One thing I am happy to admit is me and my husband both remained pure until we wed. Yea I did wrong in other areas, but the infilling of the Holy Spirit when I switched from Baptist to WOF really changed me. Long story short. we get along more now but only sometimes, they are hard to get along with, it's their way or the high way. basically they are SO controlling. My husband was 30 when we met and they never let him date ever, they had to decide who was right and who was not right, basically sounds cultic to me but whatever.