Living in the same house

[nicola_whiteside]

What do you do when you're dad sexually assulted you when you were 6 and you have tolive in the same house as him for atleast another 4 years?
He didn't rape me bit it was enugh to kill me inside. i can't tell anyone because it wuldcause huge problems for everyone and i couldn't hurt the people around me just for a peice of mind and who would beleive me anyway. I'm trying to forgive him but it's so hard
please help

 

[secretshadows618]

I'm going through something similar. My brother molested me (not raped) for 8 years but now no longer does. I have to live with him but I fortunately only have less than a year left.

My advice (even though i haven't taken it myself) is to tell someone. What if he does it to someone else? You staying quiet allows him to get away with what he did! Now you being afraid to tell I can understand completely. I also understand you not wanting to tear the family apart.

So more advice that I think you can follow through with...

Is there another family relative that you could move in with? Like an aunt/uncle or grandparent? If you're parents are divorced can you move in with your mom? As long as your dad is no longer hurting you I suggest you do what you can to make sure you are not left alone at home with him, when you go to private places like the bathroom or your bedroom lock the door, if you don't already. You shouldn't have to live like this but you will need to live on the defensive because being in the same house as him is dangerous even if it was just a one time thing years ago.

As for forgiveness part. Forgiving him is going to be one of the hardest things you will ever do. He doesn't deserve your forgiveness after the way he hurt you but neither do we deserve Gods forgiveness. God calls us to forgive everyone. Don't let your father win by holding you back in life. Forgive him and move on. Hold a grudge and he wins, let it go then you're on your way to being free.

You're in my prayers
secretshadows

 

[Criada]

I'm sorry sweetie, that is a very hard thing to live with.
But Secretshadows is right... you need to tell someone, because if your dad is attracted to small girls, he may do the same to someone else.
I know it seems an impossible thing to do, but imagine how you would feel if someone else had to go through this...
Do you have anyone you trust to talk to?

I am praying for you, sweetie. Please PM me if you want to talk.

 

[I'ddie4him2]

I have to agree with the advice given thus far.
Tell someone, Your guidance counselor at school, other parent, sibling, someone you know you can trust.........
It will seem difficult to do but you need to shed the light on this.
By doing so, You may prevent another young girl from becoming a victim.

What do you do when you're dad sexually assulted you when you were 6 and you have tolive in the same house as him for atleast another 4 years?
He didn't rape me bit it was enugh to kill me inside. i can't tell anyone because it wuldcause huge problems for everyone and i couldn't hurt the people around me just for a peice of mind and who would beleive me anyway. I'm trying to forgive him but it's so hard
please help

 

[DoesGodHear]

okay here r some things u can do. the best is to find a friend and suck up to her parents so that they like u and dont mind if u spend a lot of nights there. oh, and break ur bedroom door "accidentally" in a way that it does not close properly. its not a perfect solution because he will eventually get it fixed but it will last for a while. he will be less likely to come in if the door doesnt close, he will worry of being caught. when he does come into your room say "Hi so-and-so!" loudly enough so other ppl in ur house will hear and know he is in ur room with u. once again he will be less likely to do anything. keep something under ur pillow.

 

[CrimsonJoker]

What do you do when you're dad sexually assulted you when you were 6 and you have tolive in the same house as him for atleast another 4 years?
He didn't rape me bit it was enugh to kill me inside. i can't tell anyone because it wuldcause huge problems for everyone and i couldn't hurt the people around me just for a peice of mind and who would beleive me anyway. I'm trying to forgive him but it's so hard
please help

...Yeah see this I can slightly understand. Except for one thing. Why wouldnt you tell someone? When I was raped I never told a soul for two years. I found out later that a friend of mine was being raped by this scumbag. Ultimately I came to find out my friend is dead. The guy raped him repeatedly. My friend had some form of mental retardation. He wasnt very quick on the uptake, but he was my best friend. When I found out what had happened to him I regretted not telling anyone. Its kind of like a chain reaction. You tell someone about someone molesting you, chances are they have done it before, and if so others might come forward to tell of how he/she did the same thing to them. If you are worried about hurting your family with the news, try feeling the greatest regret possible for not stopping someone from doing the same thing to someone else. I know how it feels, and it hurts more than anything possible. If you really need to keep it inside, but a word of advice, find an outlet. If you merely store the feelings and emotions chances are one day you'll explode. Again trust me Ive done this. I exploded finally and the person who I just happened to despise was near by. Lucky for me I have better control of my anger. I blacked out and when I "awoke" he was running after me trying to beat the hell outta me while blood trickled down his chin. Holding stuff in is the worst possible outcome. It really sucks