Life in the 40's

[kat69]

Nobody ever tells you married life in the 40's is such a challenge. Don't get me wrong...I love my husband but life has been a roller coaster....all up and down and all the way around....Marriage and parenting is honestly the hardest job(s) you will ever have in your life BUT the most rewarding....I wish there was more of a support system because more married people need this so much! So many people want to give up so easily but feel not supported or encouragement is available! If you know anybody who could lend a hand please reach out and save a marriage...marriage is hard work but it's what God wants us to do....God Bless you all! ((HUGS))

 

[rainy]

Hi kat,
Marriage is a adventure as with any adventure there are going to be pitfalls , old roller coaster rides. But taking the time to love the bad times as well as the great times makes marriage worth it. God first , your spouse then you. As long as he lord heads up your marriage life will be so much better. It does get better. God gave me my husband when we graduated from high school almost 29 years ago. He has blessed us both through out the years. I love my husband and love grows as time passes.

 

[MountainBluebird]

I agree, marriage in my 40's has been a real challenge. I hope things get easier once we reach our 50's.

 

[1Sam24:12]

I don't think that it's the 40's, it's just life. I was in my late 30's when we were hit with some pretty major challenges to overcome like my hubby losing his job, a miscarriage a few months later then hubby was diagnosed with diabetes and due to him losing 30 lbs in a couple of weeks and enlarged lymph nodes went through some tests to rule out cancer. I was scared out of my mind and all I could think was that I didn't care about how much money we had, if we ever had another baby (we had struggled with secondary infertility for 5 years at the time) or any of the other trivial things I had concerned myself with over the years. All I cared about was my husband's health, well being and growing old with him.
My hubby was in his early 40's when all of this came about and even though it tried us as a couple and as individuals, it really became a stepping stone for us to really ban together as a couple and a family. We were able to tap into a love and compassion for each other and a level of commitment that we only thought that we had before.
It's not the marriage or the age that's hard, it's just the little and BIG curve balls that life throws at us. The good thing is that we have been equipped with a little more wisdom to be able to draw us together instead of apart.