Letting things go!

[Kris10leigh]

I have decided that letting nagging things go can do wonders for the spirit!

DH hates yard work. (I do too, so I can't blame him!) But since most of the inside work falls on me, I rather expected him to take care of the outside. Our soil is horrible and we have very bad landscaping to work with. Our house did not come with landscaping which is not good for two non-gardeners.

DH has been away for a month on business, so I hired a gardener! I just wanted him to mow the lawn. But then I hired him to do some landscaping! I love it!! I am going to keep him around even after DH returns. Why nag my poor husband when I can hire it out? We both hate yard work! If I hated housework, I'd probably hire a housekeeper right? Well, a gardener is only need seasonally, so it's much less expensive.

...I really would like to have a housekeeper.

 

[Niffer]

I suppose it would depend on the way you and your hubs decided to control money, but I don't think I would have hired a landscaper without consulting my hubby.
I also just moved into a house where I have little/no landscaping, just a scrubby patch of grass here and there.
One really doesn't need to do more then cut the lawn to keep the outside looking clean.
Is your yard big? Is that why no one is willing to cut it?
It would probably save money if you came to an agreement with your husband. (eg. I'll clean the bathrooms if you cut the lawn every few weeks)
We all have things we don't like doing, but we do them anyway - but maybe hiring a landscaper for the summer isn't that big of an expense for you two.

Enjoy the lawn!

-Niff

 

[BeanMak]

A big AMEN! I know money can be tight, but keeping the peace is priceless. Investing in landscaping will increase the value of your home. Plus it is welcoming to come home to a nice environment.

 

[Kris10leigh]

Niff, I appreciate very much the advise you have given, but that's not really our situation. I did consult him. When he left he was very concerned that I was going to have to mow the lawn with him gone for a month because I haven't mowed the lawn but one time in our near eleven years of marriage. I did hire him, but not without telling my husband what a wonderful thing it was going to be first.

And...I already do all of the inside chores and I work full time. So offering to do anything else in exchange for him mowing the lawn kind of makes my skin crawl. I'm already at a breaking point...

...which is why I'm thrilled to have a gardener, even though it's stretching the budget. I'm so glad to be able to lift this burden from him. I understand he hates yard work because frankly, so do I. It's hard to make him do something I myself hate. For that matter, it's hard to make any adult person do anything. That's good marriage advice!

 

[GodrockDJ]

Sister, I am in complete agreement. You have a full workload and so does your husband. If your budget allows for it, there is no sin in hiring a home service! God blesses you with income, give to Him what is His, and then use the rest wisely. Now you have harmony with your husband and a beautiful lawn!