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Women,in general,complain that we men think too much,and that we never feel. I have been told many times,”S.........,you just think too much!” Well today,I will say what I FEEL.
Today, February, 18, 2015 is Ash Wednesday. And, I am FEEL like giving up church for lent.
Well, today, and unofficially on New Years Eve,12/31/2014 ,I was Friend-Zoned by a Christian woman, whom I had been dating, off and on, for about 6 months. She is a Clinical Laboratory Scientist as I am. We met at a meeting that was entitiled,"Yes!,you CAN find a decent Man in the San Francisco Bay Area.The women were told,"The dance is from 9:00 pm until 12midnight.If you do not find a decent man by midnight,you will get your money back!!She was always telling me that she was ”too busy” to see me more than once per month. What frustrates me is, that Bible tells us Christians not to be “unequally yoked”. Meaning that we should not have a serious relationship with a non believer. So,all the while,I am “playing by the rules”. But, the smart, intelligent, christian women, that I meet ,all dump me.

They ,the smart ,single women, women with boy friends,and married women, all tell me the same thing. They tell me ”S......., you are a very kind, caring, and nice, man, You have a lot of things going for you. ANY WOMAN would be pleased to have you.”

Well,if that is the case,if I am so wonderful,why Am I am not being picked? Why am I always being shoved into the Friend Zone? I am just so tired,tired,and tired of this B.S.!!!
As a Christian,I am not ashamed to tell people about my belief in my Lord and Savior,Jesus. Jesus is great, kind, pure, and perfect .What is there not to love about Jesus? However ,there are times when I am ashamed of being associated with such a group,(not the majority of them) of judgmental, hypocritical, lying, lying ,lying,unaffectionate, and aggrogant people, who just plain……..suck!

While visiting some pujas, Eastern Spiritual practices,I feel more welcomed by these people than I do at church. I see “MORE JESUS” in these Eastern Religious women, than most women who say that they are Christians. I receive much more affection from non Christian women than I do from my Christian sisters. Maybe these women see me only as a brother ,and not as a potential lover. I am now 60 years old. I only date women in my age group. Yet I keep hearing women,in my age group ,telling me, ”I am too tired to date. I have had it with men and dating!”
NOW,I know why men my age want to date 20 and 30 year olds. I have never heard a 35 year old woman tell me that she is tired of dating.
Well,in order to cheer myself up,I am going to watch some comedy.
I have some M*A*S*H DVD's.

I can now identify with the theme song from M*A*S*H. Because this is how I………. FEEL.

The part of the song that goes like this.


“The game of life is hard to play
I'm gonna lose it anyway
The losing card I'll someday lay
so this is all I have to say.

'Cause suicide is painless
it brings on many changes
and I can take or leave it if I please.
...and you can do the same thing if you please”
 
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exit ... I know enough about every topic you brought up to say I know everyone of those feelings.

I now go to church to worship God and fellowship not to find GFs. I've been to the personal growth workshop, tantra and puja's as well and I know exactly what your talking about when it comes to the attitude of the women that go to those.
 
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exit ... I know enough about every topic you brought up to say I know everyone of those feelings.

I now go to church to worship God and fellowship not to find GFs. I've been to the personal growth workshop, tantra and puja's as well and I know exactly what your talking about when it comes to the attitude of the women that go to those.

Thank you for your understanding, Dayhiker. I was not going to go that dance that night. The night this scientist lady and I met. But this thought came to me
,urging me to go anyway. After we met, we danced and had a great time.She told me that she was not going to go to the dance that night.But her father(earthly) told her to just go anyway. Us meeting under those circumstances, I thought that this was a "GOD THING". Because,we had so much in common. She is the type of woman that I am looking for. Well... I was.....wwwwwwrong! For some unknown reason, after the third date, she just lost interest in me. Maybe she met someone else ,whom she liked better than me. She has never been married, and she is 52 years old.

Say ,we once were talking about doing a trip together. I have an idea .And,it is nota Singles Cruise. My church is taking a "Footsteps of Paul trip in Turkey,for October of 2016 There will be ample time to save up for this trip. If you are interested, just private message me, give me your e mail address ,and will I send you the info. OK? :) A trip to Turkey would really take my mind off of all of this nonsense.
 
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exit ... when a lady drops interest in me I never figure out the reason why unless she tells me. The few I thought I knew why and later had a conversation with had a different reason that I figured. So I've given up on understanding why.
 
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