I am so sick of hearing how bad LDRs are from people over the age of consent. You have the power to go and be with whomever you want yet you act like your in gaol. Go! to the love you long for. Spare us and yourself the angst of a needless LDR.
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LDR rant....
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I'm with you Desi, but as with all big choices, I would say that those involved should prayerfully consider it. We have to act in the best interests of our SO's, and that is not always to be with them as soon as possible. In my case for example, I'm in an LDR and it will remain this way until I have finished college (which will be in three semesters). By getting my degree, I am providing a means to care for my future wife and family. Of course I would love to be with my SO right now, but we both believe God is using this distance between us to shape us and strengthen us for His purposes.
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KristianJ
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I'm in the same sort of situation as you, Gorilla. If I had the financial means and the calling from God to leave where I am now to be with my SO, I would easily do so. But I have seen God's timing and will playing out in our relationship (and indeed before it by God calling me to go to the US after I finish my degree), and I know and trust in God as Danie and I continue in our relationship that He will help us to stay strong for each other and prepare us for a lifetime of godly companionship.Gorilla King said:
I'm learning that LDR's can have some minor disadvantages, but the pro's are far outweighing the con's as far as I'm concerned.
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not all of us can just hop on a plane and see the person we love...it isnt that easy..
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Pope Gonzo
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I see this as a very touchy subject, seeing how there's a good number of people involved in an LDR here, so I'm not trying to hurt anybody's feelings - I'm just gonna be blunt I think desi is saying that if you have the means to go to the one you love, go, if not, stop complaining about it.
Before everyone jumps on the "I'm not complaining about it" train, I'm just making reference to the trend of people talking about how much they miss their LDR s/o or how hard it is, etc. Perhaps the solution is for a mod to create an LDR sticky. That way, those of us who don't want to get involved with those situations don't have to, and those in LDR's can go and share, get/give advice, etc. If it really takes off, have a new board branch off this one.
I think desi is saying that if you have the means to go to the one you love, go, if not, stop complaining about it.Before everyone jumps on the "I'm not complaining about it" train, I'm just making reference to the trend of people talking about how much they miss their LDR s/o or how hard it is, etc. Perhaps the solution is for a mod to create an LDR sticky. That way, those of us who don't want to get involved with those situations don't have to, and those in LDR's can go and share, get/give advice, etc. If it really takes off, have a new board branch off this one.
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KristianJ
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That would be a great idea, Gonzo!Pope Gonzo said:I see this as a very touchy subject, seeing how there's a good number of people involved in an LDR here, so I'm not trying to hurt anybody's feelings - I'm just gonna be blunt
Before everyone jumps on the "I'm not complaining about it" train, I'm just making reference to the trend of people talking about how much they miss their LDR s/o or how hard it is, etc. Perhaps the solution is for a mod to create an LDR sticky. That way, those of us who don't want to get involved with those situations don't have to, and those in LDR's can go and share, get/give advice, etc. If it really takes off, have a new board branch off this one.
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MrsGnomeCrusher
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Desi, come on now. I do believe your little temper tantrum was uncalled for.
I think that these people show a lot of restraint and have taken a lot of responsibility not to live just off their emotions. Perhaps they're in school or have a job or personal circumstances that make it impossible for a move at that moment. I think it would be totally irresponsible for someone to just hop in their vehicle and move themselves out to wherever before they take care of what's going on at home is to be congratulated. I give them credit for that and not running on pure emotions.
As for any type of relationship, you're going to have people going on about their problems. If it's not LDR, it's something else. Check out these threads. I'm sure they're pretty full.
Plus, if you don't want to hear anyone "whining" about their LDR, don't click on the threads that refer to them.
I think that these people show a lot of restraint and have taken a lot of responsibility not to live just off their emotions. Perhaps they're in school or have a job or personal circumstances that make it impossible for a move at that moment. I think it would be totally irresponsible for someone to just hop in their vehicle and move themselves out to wherever before they take care of what's going on at home is to be congratulated. I give them credit for that and not running on pure emotions.
As for any type of relationship, you're going to have people going on about their problems. If it's not LDR, it's something else. Check out these threads. I'm sure they're pretty full.
Plus, if you don't want to hear anyone "whining" about their LDR, don't click on the threads that refer to them.
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Hmmm...
Well, since my title there says "moderator", I guess I will have to be teh one to decide if the LDR threads are allowed. Since I married a man with whom I was in a LDR with, and since I know how frustrating it is when circumstances keep you apart, I will let them go so these people can get support and understanding.
If anyone does not want to read about a LDR, then don't open the threads. And to belittle the feelings of those that are involved in LDRs is NOT OK and is not within the goal of this forum.
This thread will be closed in about 24 hours.
Well, since my title there says "moderator", I guess I will have to be teh one to decide if the LDR threads are allowed. Since I married a man with whom I was in a LDR with, and since I know how frustrating it is when circumstances keep you apart, I will let them go so these people can get support and understanding.
If anyone does not want to read about a LDR, then don't open the threads. And to belittle the feelings of those that are involved in LDRs is NOT OK and is not within the goal of this forum.
This thread will be closed in about 24 hours.
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Pope Gonzo
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Then can we all agree to make LDR posts clear that they're LDR posts? Because a post titled "I'm having some trouble with this" turns into "I miss *name* so much because I love *name* so much and our love is from God but we're so far away how do I deal with this?", it can get frustrating
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MagicStar723
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Most aren't complaining. You have got to talk about it, it makes it easier and they are looking for others in the same situation to comfort them, help them through the rough times and pray for their situation. I don't see any "whinning" going on.
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