Lacking meaningful relationships

[Cra1g]

I am now halfway through second year at University, a year and a half ago I moved away from home to goto University basicially leaving behind my family and friends. One thing I have really struggled with is making meaningful relationships with others, the type of relationship where you can talk to people about anything that is going on, anything that either of us are struggling with and not feel like it's inappropirate to talk about or feel like I am going to be judged.

All my friends which I thought were close friends back in high school have almost faded from existance. I have tried joining a church up here and yes they are very friendly and invite and try to involve me in church events but I still haven't got close enough to anyone in the church to have a conversation about life which isn't just "How are you?" "Oh good thanks, how about you?"

I have missed the opportunities I had with my old friends just to vent what is on my mind. Does anyone have any suggestions in what I could do?

Thanks in advance

 

[DeathMagus]

I am now halfway through second year at University, a year and a half ago I moved away from home to goto University basicially leaving behind my family and friends. One thing I have really struggled with is making meaningful relationships with others, the type of relationship where you can talk to people about anything that is going on, anything that either of us are struggling with and not feel like it's inappropirate to talk about or feel like I am going to be judged.

All my friends which I thought were close friends back in high school have almost faded from existance. I have tried joining a church up here and yes they are very friendly and invite and try to involve me in church events but I still haven't got close enough to anyone in the church to have a conversation about life which isn't just "How are you?" "Oh good thanks, how about you?"

I have missed the opportunities I had with my old friends just to vent what is on my mind. Does anyone have any suggestions in what I could do?

Thanks in advance

I try to help people. If it seems that someone I'm an acquaintance with is having a rough time, I ask what I can do to help. Maybe they'll open up, but if nothing else they'll appreciate the gesture, and possibly return it in the future when I need someone to talk to.

 

[ladybuelah]

Keep going to church, join a club of intrest around your area and stick with it. It will take time but you will gain meaningful relationships as time goes on. Right now your in the early stages of how any friendship starts.
Zechariah 4:10
Do not despise the day of small things
You will be just fine, just wait and see!

 

[savedbygrace27]

I can relate to your situation because I'm in a similar one now as well. The only suggestion I have is to stay strong for Jesus.

So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
(Isaiah 41:10)

And I'm here to talk if you ever need someone to vent to.
You will be in my prayers. God bless.

 

[Kevin_Wright]

Yeah I pretty much suck at relationships too. But one thing I noticed is that people can tell when you care. And my closest friendships now (if you can call them that) kind of came from that mutual understanding. Hey I care for you, you care for me. Lets take it from here. And as far as I can see that SEEMS to be a good foundation to build a friendship on.

 

[DMMullinax]

It will take time but you will gain meaningful relationships as time goes on. Right now your in the early stages of how any friendship starts.

Wow, couldn't agree any more. Time is the main key to any great, meaningful relationship. Just spend a lot of time with worth while people at church, school, ect and it will evolve into great relationships. The wait is hard, but if there's anything I believe in, it's that good things DO come to those who wait.

 

[yeshua91]

yo brother craig, i am a little bit younger than you with a completely different background, however i can relate to ur situation. i talk about some of the most extreme views on the philosophy in christianity that people in my local church consider me counter-cultural, but thats fine because i am sure of my faith. So when having the urge to talk to another whether it is in church or in any other situation whatsoever i suggest u say whatever it is that u feel, and that's how i learned how to sort out who i can be real with and who i cant.
BUT THE HOLY SPIRIT OF THE LORD WILL ALWAYS BE LISTENING, u should try to talk to god in a less formal prayer, remember that knowing and loving god is our greatest privilege, and being known and loved by us is gods greatest pleasure.
HE CALLS US HIS CHILDREN! as a father i know that i wouldnt want my daughter to just constantly be asking for things, but bonding with me telling me what is truly on her mind and heart, as a father i would love that more than any other thing,
I'm know that our father god wants to hear EVERYTHING about your side of his story.
DRAW CLOSE TO GOD AND GOD WILL DRAW CLOSE TO YOU. JAMES 4:8

 

[SparkyMaddie]

we all move on and away and so you have to make friends where you are. it sounds easy but i've realized friendships are like planting. takes time to cultivate and grow.