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Did anyone talk to the lifeguard or his supervisor? That seems like a very dangerous situation for the person who is supposed to be ensuring safety to be so apathetic.
lol! I jumped out of the boat one day to cool off and got carried away by the current. My husband just stood in the boat watching me. I didn't expect him to jump in after me, but it would have been nice if he at least would have pulled in the anchor and came after me with the boat. No, he is not my knight in shining armour, but that's okay. He is my husband and that to me is more important then a knight in shining armour. One seems to be a dream and one is reality.
Well my husband isnt a knight in shining armour either thats the point.But the truth is ..I wouldnt be here today.I would have drowned..I was already drowning..another 5 maybe 10 mintues I would have not been able to fight any more..I was already only able to go under the water and after a swell went over me I could touch the bottom(the water was risign and falling many feet) and then JUMP up out of the water gasp..then go back under..wait ..touch the bottom JUMP up gasp for air and so on..while that was happening I was also beign pulled every time the swell went over me..several feet back into the ocean my legs and body were being DRAGGED out to sea....I was beign SUCKED into the ocean..I would have died..
IOW if my husband had not acted..I would have died 16 years ago..(I think its been that long LOL>..)..Thats what Im saying..he didnt just 'help me" he SAVED my LIFE..there was NO way ..I could have gotten out of that..none..
The "funny "thing is ..once I dragged my trembling choking sobbing exausted body onto the sand ...I said...you saved my life...He said in perfect Andy style..(and he was out of breath too just not a rag doll like me)...Nah...you would have been fine.
Dallas
I think calling them a knight or a prince once in a while would stoke their ego, but the best compliment any woman could give a man would be to call him husband.
Probably. Now thanks to AL, I'll have Elton Johns ugly mug leaping to mind when I think of knights.
Athene said:There's a lot to be said for having a guy who will be there for you, the minute you need him. Is it the same for the men here, is it important for you that you can depend on your wives to help you out of a bind?
Idk. I think today's "knight in shining armor" is one that's conquered his own demons. He's slain his obsession with porn and objectifying women, his need to be the center of attention, his desire for all the gadgets and toys .... Yes!! A man like that would be a "knight in shining armor" to me.
Truth be told, I'm unlikely to face a physical death that my husband has the power to prevent (or sacrifice himself for), but the emotional/spiritual damage he piles onto me and our relationship with his undealt with inner demons ...
What good is a man who would "die" for you physically (& who will likely never have to "prove it") if he's maiming you emotionally?
Idk. I think today's "knight in shining armor" is one that's conquered his own demons. He's slain his obsession with porn and objectifying women, his need to be the center of attention, his desire for all the gadgets and toys .... Yes!! A man like that would be a "knight in shining armor" to me.
Truth be told, I'm unlikely to face a physical death that my husband has the power to prevent (or sacrifice himself for), but the emotional/spiritual damage he piles onto me and our relationship with his undealt with inner demons ...
What good is a man who would "die" for you physically (& who will likely never have to "prove it") if he's maiming you emotionally?
Idk. I think today's "knight in shining armor" is one that's conquered his own demons. He's slain his obsession with porn and objectifying women, his need to be the center of attention, his desire for all the gadgets and toys .... Yes!! A man like that would be a "knight in shining armor" to me.
Truth be told, I'm unlikely to face a physical death that my husband has the power to prevent (or sacrifice himself for), but the emotional/spiritual damage he piles onto me and our relationship with his undealt with inner demons ...
What good is a man who would "die" for you physically (& who will likely never have to "prove it") if he's maiming you emotionally?
Wow Avneil! You have definitely experienced things that many of us haven't. Being ready to die for a loved one is importantt as wrll. But Janni still has some good points. First of all, many men who talk about being ready to die for their wives, haven't had to do it, and may never be tested in that area, so it would be an easy thing to claim falsely, much of the time.
Secondly, even really being willing to die, while a valiant act, is still something that would only happen once. It's always easier, with anything, to go through it once, or for a short period, as opposed to enduring it long term.
I think you are absolutely dealing with Growing in Christ. You are now concerned with the inner workings of your heart. That is where God does surgery, and it is where we all need to be focused. This may well be a painful prosess for you, for which you have my sympathy and pray, but this may well me one of the most wonderful times where you learn and grow exponentially, as well. God may be working in an amazing way right now. Awesome! Praise God!I think that is really interesting. I do believe it has a lot to do with my environmental upbringings. I had a friend that got hit with a tire iron and was in a comma, another one of my friends can't visit his mother without someone
chasing after him or bullets buzzing by his head, I have seen police rob drug dealers two of my cousins on separate occasions have shot at police(one an off duty cop that became upset that my cousin was dating his girlfriend he got off but was deported). When out of all your friends your the only one that went to college and gets paid legally the way you view death can be askewed. I dont have that natural fear of death, I'm scared of jail, I'm scared of the police but I'm not scared to die. Not saying I would go out of my way to but if something comes my way danger really doesn't factor to me. When your raised around so many people that have so little value for life including there own it can change how you process danger and death.
Going to college I found it interesting how people were scared to go to certain areas of atlanta, talk to certain type of person.....I never really learned how to fear like that. I think that's called stunted developmental growth.
For me it's not about will I risk my life for my wife but more so will I let go of my pride, my ego, my fears for my wife. And I think in every situation I have done just that. Now I'm not perfect and I don't get everything right all the time. But if it's between my wife crying and my ego being hurt I'd rather deal with a hurt ego. I think thats what being a knight in shining armor really is. It's a man with all his flaws, faults, dislikes, personality traits, bad habits and truly understanding that his wife is more important to him then himself. I honestly believe that is the biggest part men don't understand about the love your wife as Christ loved the church scripture. Christ gave his life for the Church He placed more value on us as sinners then He did himself. I think that is the deepest kinda of love. Of course the wife is no more important then the husband but I feel that if you ask any man who he views more important himself or his wife.....That man should believe his wife.
Wow Avneil! You have definitely experienced things that many of us haven't. Being ready to die for a loved one is importantt as wrll. But Janni still has some good points. First of all, many men who talk about being ready to die for their wives, haven't had to do it, and may never be tested in that area, so it would be an easy thing to claim falsely, much of the time.
Secondly, even really being willing to die, while a valiant act, is still something that would only happen once. It's always easier, with anything, to go through it once, or for a short period, as opposed to enduring it long term.
Idk. I think today's "knight in shining armor" is one that's conquered his own demons. He's slain his obsession with porn and objectifying women, his need to be the center of attention, his desire for all the gadgets and toys .... Yes!! A man like that would be a "knight in shining armor" to me.
Truth be told, I'm unlikely to face a physical death that my husband has the power to prevent (or sacrifice himself for), but the emotional/spiritual damage he piles onto me and our relationship with his undealt with inner demons ...
What good is a man who would "die" for you physically (& who will likely never have to "prove it") if he's maiming you emotionally?
Idk. I think today's "knight in shining armor" is one that's conquered his own demons. He's slain his obsession with porn and objectifying women, his need to be the center of attention, his desire for all the gadgets and toys .... Yes!! A man like that would be a "knight in shining armor" to me.
Truth be told, I'm unlikely to face a physical death that my husband has the power to prevent (or sacrifice himself for), but the emotional/spiritual damage he piles onto me and our relationship with his undealt with inner demons ...
What good is a man who would "die" for you physically (& who will likely never have to "prove it") if he's maiming you emotionally?
I agree that such a man would be worthy of the title knight. A question though. Do you believe that all or the huge majority of men have to deal with the particular demons you mention?
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