Kissing before marriage?

[SeekingGloryOnThisJourney]

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.
I’ve always thought it’s okay unless you make it a sin. (Bad intentions, same as making an image and idol, a friend an enemy, etc...)

 

[thecolorsblend]

If there's one thing I can't abide, it's that whole Duggar School Of Dating nonsense. If a man and his girlfriend like each other, go on, kiss each other. Just make sure all your clothes stay on. But kissing? No problem.

 

[HARK!]

STD from Kissing: Diseases, Symptoms, and More

Would a future spouse be OK with it?

 

[SeekingGloryOnThisJourney]

STD from Kissing: Diseases, Symptoms, and More

Would a future spouse be OK with it?

Are you suggesting it’s sexual?

 

[public hermit]

If you can't control yourself kissing, you won't control yourself with the rest.

Edit: I forgot the Bible part. Philippians 4:13, "I can do all things through him who strengthens me."

 

[HARK!]

Are you suggesting it’s sexual?

I'm not. I'm suggesting that if the knot isn't tied with the kissing partner; would a future prospective spouse be accepting of someone who was bringing an STD to the marriage?

I wouldn't want to bring an STD to someone who had been saving herself for me.

 

[Basil the Great]

If a dating couple do not kiss, then one might wonder if they are even a good match for marriage.

 

[Under One King]

I wouldn't say it is a sin, but if you ask anyone who waited to kiss until their wedding day, I think they would say it was worth the wait. I think it would make you even closer to your spouse.
I personally will wait. I think it will be worth it.

 

[Goodhuman]

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

 

[Sketcher]

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.
I’ve always thought it’s okay unless you make it a sin. (Bad intentions, same as making an image and idol, a friend an enemy, etc...)

You're right. Leave the option open to yourself.

 

[Strong in Him]

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.

If it was vitally important to us as Christians, the Bible would provide clear teaching on it.

 

[DamianWarS]

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.
I’ve always thought it’s okay unless you make it a sin. (Bad intentions, same as making an image and idol, a friend an enemy, etc...)

anything saved for marriage will be that much sweeter however kissing is not innately wrong. it's one of those things where you have to know your limits and even this is in a western vacuum. place yourself in a different setting and yes, kissing before marriage is horribly inappropriate. respect the culture you're in and respect the person your with appropriately and do all do give glory to God.

 

[mindlight]

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.
I’ve always thought it’s okay unless you make it a sin. (Bad intentions, same as making an image and idol, a friend an enemy, etc...)

Really find it hard to listen to these kinds of questions. Of course you can kiss. There is nothing in scripture prohibiting this in a serious relationship. Living in Germany this seems obvious and given the divorce rate among Christians in USA think the whole white wedding , super prudish culture might manufacture expectations that cannot survive test of reality

 

[Olmhinlu]

My personal opinion is that it (the prohibition) could in some contexts be a prudent boundary, but that we ought not to conflate the man-made boundary with the actual word of God.

Then Jacob kissed Rachel and wept aloud.

 

[Tone]

Kissing's the "gateway drug" of fornication.

So, only do it if the other party is a frog (nobody wants to marry a frog).

Also, isn't kissing 1st base?

Now, if you read and understand those first three comments, your conscience will probably lead you to not kissing. But, if you can look past such mind tricks, you may consider:

Romans 14:23

 

[HARK!]

Are you suggesting it’s sexual?

I don't know. It depends on the kiss. Here's a good test: Would you kiss your parents and siblings in the same way?

 

[nolidad]

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.
I’ve always thought it’s okay unless you make it a sin. (Bad intentions, same as making an image and idol, a friend an enemy, etc...)

As there is no specific rule for this for the church, it is a matter of personal conscience guided by Scripture.

A rule is, if you get aroused and start having strong desires- don't play with fire!

 

[ravindraneee]

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.
I’ve always thought it’s okay unless you make it a sin. (Bad intentions, same as making an image and idol, a friend an enemy, etc...)

The way I see it is, what is allowed between a man and woman before marriage is what is allowed with others after marriage. For example, we wouldn't kiss any one other than our spouse after marriage. If that is the case, how can kissing someone before marriage become right?

 

[Broken Fence]

Luke 6:19 kjv And the whole multitude sought to touch him: for there went virtue out of him, and healed them all.

Virtue- noun. moral excellence; goodness; righteousness. conformity of one's life and conduct to moral and ethical principles; uprightness; rectitude. chastity; virginity: to lose one's virtue. a particular moral excellence.

virtue

 

[shineyourlight]

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.
I’ve always thought it’s okay unless you make it a sin. (Bad intentions, same as making an image and idol, a friend an enemy, etc...)

It really depends on what a stumbling block for you is.

For me, kissing is perfectly fine before marriage. But, that's because it doesn't tempt me to go farther.

However, just because that is not a stumbling block for me, it might be for someone else and they have the belief that they won't kiss because they know it will lead them somewhere else.

Hope that makes sense.