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Change to another subject. Sooo... How do you deal with the sex before marriage issue? I mean that would be the main problem with me in future relationships. I will sadly just put my foot down and say. "No" not until it's at the alter and I think that will be a problem with some guys. What you think?
Sex at the alter? that would be pretty awkward...
To answer your question seriously, a guy like me would have a huge problem staying completely abstinent through a relationship until marriage. I would certainly try, and if it was important to the girl I was dating, I would encourage her to do her best to keep my mind off that and be strong in her convictions... But at the end of the day, I doubt I could do that.
Personally, I don't know that I would even want to. I would worry about clouding my judgment on when and with who to get married to by abstaining completely. There would have to be some compromise for me to feel totally comfortable (foreplay).
No one is perfect right, but question is how commited are you? I thinkI mean I know I had the chance onces, but I stuck to my guns. I guess it's just commitment. (Yeah....I think I'm misspelling something I know it.)
Agreed.
That pretty much sums it up. No means no.
I think it's so refreshing to see people who want to stick it out. This world is so oversexed that it's crazy. When it comes to sex, I value my relationship with God too much. I want to honor him with my life, with my wife, all my friendships and relationships. I made a promise to Him that I'm going to keep and if my future wife doesn't like that then I will find someone else.
If it's not pleasing in His sight, I don't want it to be a part of my life. Period. I think if we stick to God's word, He will bless our marriage and bless our kids and He will be honored.
In short, I want God to smile when He sees us.
Agreed.
If it's a huge issue to wait and your really want to wait, you can always find trusted people who can hold you and your SO accountable. Try and find someone who shares the sames beliefs as you. It'll be awfully hard to stay pure if they person your with doesn't want that. Don't put yourself in situations where you might be tempted (as in alone in a bedroom with the doors locked) And also, pray pray pray! God promises to help us when we're faced with temptations. We just need to ask for help.
I don't want to discourage those attitudes at all, because I love that people out there do have the strength and commitment to fight for their purity.
I just want to mention that it's God's grace and love and forgiveness that smiles down on us. Our performance will never win His grace. Trying to do that will only make someone look silly to Him.
I know what I am and am not capable of. Unless God physically changes something about me, I will lust in relationships (and out of them, while single, as well). To try and act like I can avoid sexual intimacy outside of marriage is foolish, because I already fail in that regard through my heart and mind. So to me, the actions are not severe, as the heart behind those actions is already their and in motion.
That's why I thank God. For His forgiveness. I know I can't offer Him perfection or purity. I can still praise Him, still understand my shortcomings, and still honor Him with the way I treat people.
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