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bartony

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I've been a member of these forums on the Golden Eagles part for several years and didn't even know a grief forum existed.

Well, my story...

My precious Barb went to the Lord this past December 18th, 2009. She had come down with lupus, a disease that I severely underestimated of how really dangerous it is. Her kidneys stopped functioning and she went to the Lord after a brain bleed on the afternoon and night of Dec. 18th.

We were both the first marriage for each other. We were brought together by a loving Lord fairly late in life. I was in my late 40's and Barb her early 50's. We knew each other for almost 17 years, and would have been married 14 years this past January 20th.

We were so much alike and perfectly suited for each other, soul mates united by our loving Jesus.

It has been seven months since she went home, but the sting of pain still is with me. God has helped me a long way, but I have a long way to go.
I can't see myself ever marrying again. Barb was IT. She spoiled me in every way, and I tried to spoil her as well.

I went through a six week grief class back in the winter and have been in grief counseling which I still see the counselor now and then.

This has been the most horrible time of my life. I never wanted to be without her. *crying* We were so very much a part of each other. A huge chunk of my heart was ripped out of me on that dark Friday night in December.

I cling to the knowledge of seeing her again one glorious day with our Savior and Lord.

I will try to post a picture of my precious darling in this thread.

Thanks for taking time to read of a man's broken heart.

God bless,

Tony
 

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She was a very beautiful lady, Bartony... I am so sorry for your loss.
Grief is very painful, praying that God will comfort you and give you peace in the knowledge that this separation is only temporary, and you will be together for eternity.
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Thank you for sharing your story, and the beautiful pictures of Barb.
 
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Thank you so very much, Criada. I am slowly healing from my loss. That once in a lifetime soul mate is hard to give up, but as you say, this separation is only temporary.

I am glad you enjoyed reading my story and seeing my pretty angel. My mind can't grasp just how beautiful she is in Heaven!
 
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