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My grandmother is driving me nuts. I feel awful even saying that, but she is. Tonight when I went to get her ready for bed, she had eaten a piece of strawberry pie. She's allergic. So she was swelling. And then we had to go to the ER because the hives started.

She bought the pie at the grocery the other day. The one time I didn't go through the aisles with her and watch her every move but let someone else take her.

I just get so tired of this. She always apologizes when she's eaten something like strawberries or also peanuts, she's allergic to those, too. And yet, if I don't watch her every second of the day she keeps eating these things or doing things that cause problems, like filing on her false teeth. She doesn't like the fit, so instead of just waiting until the dentist can fix them, she files on them. Then they are ruined. So we start all over again.

AAAAAAAAagh. I love her but I am really starting to lose it.:sigh: She's not confused about this stuff. She knows she's doing something that will cause her to get sick or something. But it's almost like a child- she wants to eat strawberries, so she does, no matter the consequence. It seems selfish to me. I don't know. Maybe she can't help it.

I feel awful complaining. I just get so tired:swoon:
 

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aaww. *WARMFUZZIES AND PRAYER!!* ... i read about older people in a medical book (i was a medic)... it was talking about just this! it seems that the older generations who are 'loosing' their freedom and 'abilitities'.... tend to be rebellious and act out. it's their phycological response to getting old and being frustrated with the loss of their youth and being 'controlled' (controlled: surroundings, health, weaknesses, limitations, etc.)... so they say that the best 'remedy' (just like teenagers it's not a remedy but a 'tool')... being the 'clever parent', by arraging things that give them a sense of control. anything... being able to move pictures, change them. special meal. having the TV remote. shopping for a new dress. getting their done, and choosing the style.

(at a real facility) we had a lady we had to work with, that threw things at staff. yelled, bit, you name it. we had to figure out how to work with her. tricky! lol.

anyway. i don't know if this will give you any ideas. it can be frustating taking care of our loved ones. you are a sweetie to help. she may not always appreciate it with her actions: but she knows she's needs you. xo ~ don't feel badly about 'venting'. sometimes it's called 'reaching out'. ;) you do need support and validation too. you're doing a very difficult task. ~ love dee
 
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How old is your grandmother? Has she had any strokes or problems with her heart? I have learned that people are REAL good at covering up when they start to loose it - kinda like the people who can't read and cover that up so well that no one knows they can't read.
 
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Your thread started quite some time ago. I'm new to the forum, but rapidly aging in caregiving. Reading your "challenges" and responses to them help me gain perspective as the sole caregiver of parents who have been married 71 !!! years. oops, I'm also new to computers. And both blessed & beleagered. another seeker
 
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How old is your grandmother? Has she had any strokes or problems with her heart? I have learned that people are REAL good at covering up when they start to loose it - kinda like the people who can't read and cover that up so well that no one knows they can't read.
I agree with lady
 
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God bless you with your gramma. This must be so hard, it may be that only we can agree as sisters and brothers in Christ with you for strength and wisdom on how to handle her in these situations. Stay close to your sisters who will pray with you and support you. Lord be with my sister and help her during these trying times. Help her have rest from time to time. Amen....God bless you dear
 
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