Just moved out

[BRDispatch05]

Hey everyone, I don't know if you remember my post about how my buddy was getting married and considered "cheating" on her with another girl, well that turned out bad, but I'm not going to get into that now. I just moved in with him a couple weeks ago with him ((1st time living on my own)) and it's pretty fun being on my own. This guy is my best friend, but he has changed so much in the past few weeks, and I don't know what to do. He use to be a great guy that i would never have a problem with, but ever since i moved in, either he changed or I'm seeing his real side. He drinks every night, curses like a sailor, is having pre-marital sex with his new girlfriend he's known for a couple weeks, and is lying like crazy. When he gets drunk, he is just rude, a jerk. He doesnt respect that i live with him when he is having sex when im 20ft away from him in the other room. He knows it bothers me because of my beliefs. Then he has the nerve to criticize and ridicule what i believe, and I can respect he has different beliefs ((he is Christian, but has different views)), but he doesn't respect mine at all. It's actually hard for me to respect his beliefs when he is doing all this. I don't know what to do...I want to be there for him and help him, but i've said something to him practically every night about it and he says "yea, i need to work on that". next night comes, he is doing it again without remorse. i work 7am-2pm, than have classes @ college 3-830, and I'm the one doing any cleaning and other odd-jobs (which isn't much). I just know if i keep on dealing with this, he is going to influence me and I don't want that to happen. As i speak he's on the front porch drunk. Thanks for listening, i needed to let that out. Also, if you have any advice as to how i could help him, I would appreciate it. thanks for listening

Brad

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

Honestly Brad, I'd move out.

I think the best thing you can do for him at this point is pray that the Lord opens his heart, mind and ears to what He has to say.

 

[Imblessed]

Move out as soon as you can, and pray for him. Don't close the door on your friendship though. At the same time, there's no need to be a doormat either. At the risk of judging, I'd say that he's not really a christian, just by his actions--and the fact that he ridicules your beliefs.

It's quite possible he's changed....kids can get crazy when they are suddenly on their own--I know I did some irresponsible things when I was on my own at first---but it doesn't mean you have to put up with it. Especially if you are afraid he's gonna be a bad influence on you...

It would be far better for you to move and and maintain your friendship, then stay and have it ruined because of his lack of respect and your feelings of betrayal.

 

[LynnMcG]

The first thing I thought of when I read your post Brad, is that you're unequally yoked. When you spend that much time with someone who's values are that different from yours, you're bound to begin to change. It'll happen gradually, but before long you'll be doing things or behaving in a way that was unacceptable to you before.

GET OUT! Pray for your friend, don't walk away from your friendship, but get out. If you behave like a Christian snob, he'll never see Christ's love in you. Act in love and you can't go wrong.

 

[JVD]

You need to move out asap. If you don't it will be seen as condoning/approving his actions. I would be careful to have him as a best friend until he changes his behavior.

This guy is headed for disaster and you may be harmed as well if you stay.

 

[flyingsum0]

Move out and keep him in your prayers