Just getting something off my chest!

[Forever trying]

Hey guys. This is actually the first thread that I've actually started in this forum. Don't know how many responses I'll get, but I would value the opinions and/or insight of others.

Anyway, I guess it starts three years ago at uni. Out of my group of friends I was the guy who wasn't really falling over for every girl in sight. Others even started to think that I may have been going for the "other team" theory (go figure). I'm just not easily impressed! But in 2002 there was one girl who I really fell for (the only one at uni, or perhaps ever, for that matter). The whole can't eat or sleep thing kicked in. I managed to talk to her quite a few times because she went around with other friends of mine. Even got her to laugh a couple of times. But nothing that really boosted my confidence enough to say more than I'd like to. She seemed like a really nice girl. She was known to be a very quiet person. Even my best friend who knew her better thought that she was a bit too stand-offish (if there's such a word) sometimes. Admittedly she was also attractive, and I knew other guys (who I considered then to have a better hope than me) were after her. Added to some other factors, I didn't really have the confidence that I wish I had for that situation. So at year end, I literally just watched her walk away, and never saw her again.

Around 2 1/2 years later, I now see her name on an old school/uni reunion website, for people who want to catch up. It seems as though (according to her profile) she's gone down the same road as me (in terms of job and that). Now one of my friends say I should send her a message. Just a nice little one like how you, and mention a couple of our mutual acquantances (very innocent type of thing). On one hand, a part of me really wants to do that. I've yet to fall for someone like I fell for her. Perhaps even just something to "close the book" forever on this. So I don't go through life any longer with the feeling that I didn't try hard enough.

Yet on the other hand; I tell myself that's it's been 2 1/2 years, get over it. She most probably wouldn't know/remember me from a bar of soap. Plus, in my mind, if I was her, I'd think that would be a bit wierd. I mean, that's verging on stalking just about right? I don't want to make the poor girl scared.

I don't know! The whole situation is strange and alien to me.

If any one has anything helpful to say, feel free to jump in.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

Send her a message. If she didn't want to be bothered, she wouldn't have posted her email on the reunion website.

I'm a member of a class/reunion website and I received an email one day from someone I went to junior high school with and I was SO GLAD to hear from him!. So if you were to contact her, I don't think it would be strange at all.

I wouldn't start off the first email with something like " I've been waiting to be with you all these years..." type thing (you know what I mean) . Something like that would seem stalker-ish.

But just a simple "Hi, this is Forever trying, from class of XX, remember me? How are you, blah, blah, blah" should get the ball rolling.

Good luck!

 

[lady_of_god]

I think you should definitely send her a message. It doesn't hurt to try and all you would do is ponder and think "what if....", I personally hate thinking the what if's.

If some guy contacted me after 2 1/2yrs I would think it was sweet not weird.

-Lady

 

[johnnystaycool]

Send her a message. If she didn't want to be bothered, she wouldn't have posted her email on the reunion website.

I'm a member of a class/reunion website and I received an email one day from someone I went to junior high school with and I was SO GLAD to hear from him!. So if you were to contact her, I don't think it would be strange at all.

I wouldn't start off the first email with something like " I've been waiting to be with you all these years..." type thing (you know what I mean) . Something like that would seem stalker-ish.

But just a simple "Hi, this is Forever trying, from class of XX, remember me? How are you, blah, blah, blah" should get the ball rolling.

Good luck!

Take Beauty's advice, send her a quick innocent messege and see what comes out of it. If you want, have someone check it over to make sure it doesn't sound like you are stalking her.

Best of Wishes man

 

[lady_of_god]

I wouldn't start off the first email with something like " I've been waiting to be with you all these years..." type thing (you know what I mean) . Something like that would seem stalker-ish.

ROFLOL... that struck me as soooooo funny. lol

I would have to agree with her. Just keep the message friendly and try to get the communication ball rolling.

-Lady

 

[Forever trying]

LOL!

Right. General advice so far, "send her a message, but not a creepy one". I should right that down to remember. LOL

But seriously, I wasn't going to go into the Don Juan tirade straight away. Just a nice quick catch up message. I've just got to get the courage up to do it! Knowing me, I'll keep putting it off.

But thanks for the posts so far guys, they are really encouraging. Especially to get a couple of female perspectives (not that the blokes ideas aren't appreciated).