Just A Question

[FindingMyWayAgain]

Since you consider yourself Quiverfull, I'm wondering what you would do in this situation.

A doctor tells you that you shouldn't have any more children for health reasons (or if you have no children yet that you shouldn't have any.) Would you begin to use a form of birth control, even NFP, OR would you trust that if you became pregnant God will make a way for it to work?

I'm just wondering what people's opinions are. I'm not going to judge any of the answers, I have just been wondering what a person in this situation would do.

Also, this isn't personal experience. At least I hope my doctor doesn't tell me I shouldn't have any more!

 

[Sabertooth]

1. I would get a second opinion.

2. I would find out the potential consequences of pregnancy. If you would be risking life & limb with each pregnancy, I would take the threat more seriously than if you were at risk for a treatable complication.

3. Is the condition permanent?
a. If no, feel free to use any non-abortifacient contraception available to you as long as you need to. (The "pill" & its variations CAN cause embryonic abortions.) You would not have a properly functioning womb to offer the LORD at that time.
b. If yes, you may need to prayerfully consider long-term procedures, but hysterectomies, tubal ligations, oophorectomies & vasectomies all have associated health risks & consequences. At that point, you would have to weigh the risks associated with a procedure against the risks faced if you DON'T have a necessary procedure. Amputation is a legitimate medical response, though it should be as a last resort. AND one can be QF-minded even though their body/health fails them. There is no perfect answer. You may want to continue with a. above, instead. God may be telling you (by His reckoning) it isn't permanent after all...

 

[Fullheart]

For myself I would also get a second opion & do as much research as possible. My dh & I believe in allowing God to make the decision for us.

A friend of mine was told not to have any more after baby # 2, she didn't listen & went on to have 5 more healthy children, each time the Dr saying the same thing, you shouldn't have any more due to health reasons. Personally I'm very surprised she stayed with the same Dr. I know I would have changed.

She also choose to trust in God & was given 5 beautiful boys & 1 girl. She's one of the best mothers I've ever met.

 

[FPtje]

If having a baby would have serious and permanent consequences for the child OR you I would consider adoption if I would like to have a child. If I didn't want a child, I would use anticonception to prevent misery from happening.

If the condition the child would not be permanent, then I would have the child. But seeing the doctor disadvised having a child at all I don't think that's the case.

 

[jgonz]

Our baby #3 was born with birth defects and was in the NICU for 4.5 months. She died of surgical complications trying to fix the birth defects. The doctor in charge of the NICU sat DH and I down and told us that it was entirely possible that we had a genetic defect and so should be thoroughly tested. He also said we probably should seriously consider not having any more children. Both DH and I were stunned. Our first two children were 100% healthy so we took what he said with a grain of salt.... But still, those questions remained in the background.

DH wanted to do the testing, but it was Really expensive. I said no way jose was I going to submit to anything like that, I'd had it with doctors and hospitals by this time and was just angry at everything.

We used a barrier method form of bc for several months while praying over the situation. We finally got a clear "no" for testing, but as far as having any more kids, we couldn't come to a clear answer. I was _aching_ for another baby, but DH was scared to death. So we continued to use the bc. During that time, a friend of mine got pregnant while on the pill AND using condoms. I said to God, "you'll have to do that with me".... and He did. #4 was born perfectly healthy, and we used no bc or barrier bc on & off over the years after that (as per DH's wants. He has never been totally comfortable with the QF mindset, even though I was/am). We had 6 more healthy babies after #4.

God is Definately in control. And He is the giver of life~ if you're open to life (and sometimes even when you're not. lol)