Just a chat with myself...

[TheWinterGaze]

My life is just a tiny part of the whole human history – both the past and the future. I want a partner. But what about if I will bring misery to him, or our children, and if the move of my choice will affect the human history in a negative way, however negligible it is? In spiritual terms, if I make a choice which is not part of His Plan, then I will be responsible – how ever tiny negative effect that will be – for whatever misery that will result? But God is much bigger than this, is He? Nothing can roll out of His Plan. All things work together, whether good or bad, to accomplish His Big Picture. But if it is not His Plan to have me married, then “what a miserable and lonely life I will have”… but if I realise my life is just a tiny, tiny, tiny part of the whole human history – from the beginning of the world to eternity, and that my life is not for myself, but for the whole human kind of all times, then what ever happens or not happens in my life will become less and less important. I will begin to see not “my life”, but the whole nations, the whole human kind of our times, and maybe the whole human history both past and history to come. I have a glimpse of this widened perception and my heart experienced a widened space to breathe. If this is another way to see life, then life will be happier for definite.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

and the awesome thing is, that even when we do make bad decisions that have negative effects in the short term, He can and will make good out of it... not necessarily for us if we're not open to the changes, but definitely to someone.

Thanks for thinking out loud!

 

[zaksmummy]

Slow down, take one thing at once

You want a partner, start there...

Do you think that God wants you to be unhappy? Do you not think that he would rather you had a full and complete life? If your desire is to have a special someone in your life that you can love and share and be intimate with, do you not think that he gave you this desire?

People are built to be social creatures, to love and have friends and have a special relationship with one person.

Lets go back to the start, God made Adam, he was lonely, so God made Eve from him and for him, to be a helpmate, someone to share things with and be with.

If you really want a person like this in your life then, with Gods help you will find one. God is a good God who desires to give good gifts to his children, and that include you

Catrin xx

 

[TheWinterGaze]

But the thing is that, God hasn't promised he will prepare a partner for everyone who desire it - that's the problem. There are many people in this world who desire a lot to have a partner, but end up single all his/her life. But I believe God wants me to be happy. So to solve the paradox in this case, it will be that I need God's help to move that desire out of my life and so be happy? I am confused....

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

I think you are right that part of the answer is turning our singleness over to God to handle. He may have a partner in the future, but He may ask us to be willing to be single for Him.

I can relate to your heart about this to some extent. For a long time I wanted to be married, and then I got very angry and said I'd never get married. Long story short, once I turned my relationships over to God, I gained a peace, and at this point in my life, I'm single and happy, and while I'm open to having a relationship and a future partner, I'm loving being single. There are some days that are painful - loneliness sometimes gets in there... but those are times I reach out to friends.

I think it is confusing.. but your initial post as I read it even though it started by looking at how you would negatively impact a partner, but you ended with thoughtful words and I heard you saying that you're searching for a way to be positive about being single, and how your life impacts a part of our lives.

I do believe we all have a gift to give (whether we give it or not). Part of my peace came in a similar path it sounds like you're taking. I said my life is not my life.. it's God's mirror.. and His to choose what I'd do. It has given me more peace to know he is in control and not me who is very bad at making decisions without Him. LOL REALLY bad.

Have you checked out the Singles folder? I have posted in the mature singles subforum a couple times and found a lot of great discussion on being single and considering dating, etc. If you haven't, you might want to check it out.