Judging

[MariaGlitter]

What can I say to people who judge others and aren't keeping things clean?
They usually start judging you for saying it's not nice to judge.

I need help

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

It's human nature to judge because it makes us feel better about our own skeletons in the closet. The Bible says "judge not, lest you be judged". In the end we will all be held accountable for our sins. Now, we can observe someone else's "fruits". In other words, if my friend was doing drugs, I would certainly not sit back and say, "well, it's their choice so who am I to judge?" It's a very fine and complex line though. Compassion and concern can quickly turn to judgement and condemnation if we aren't dilligent about staying right with the Holy Spirit.

 

[coyoteBR]

Hm, hard question.
I guess the best way to act is to show, for our actions, thoughts and words, the desired way of conduct, and pray for the person mimic those atitudes.
At least, this would be in a perfect world.

How about dodging the matter, with phrases like:
"I don't know, we don't know what J. Doe went thru in the past to have such and such atitude, so I don't know what to say."
"Well, that's an interesting way to see the question. Did you tried to talk to him/her to see if your theory is right?"

This way, you do not crash into the judging person, saying "you are wrong", but to make they think for thenselves. Sometimes it works

And welcome aboard!

 

[MariaGlitter]

Oh thanks!

 

[sundaymorningsigner]

What can I say to people who judge others and aren't keeping things clean?
They usually start judging you for saying it's not nice to judge.

I need help

Tell them they are talking scripture out of context. We are not to, and are not qualified to, judge other's salvation. We are, however, to judge other's words and deeds. It's called discernment. We are to take what we hear and see, then compare it to scripture to see if it is of the Holy Spirit.


You might also point out that one's saying "you are not to judge" in itself IS just that, a judgement!

 

[Mustaphile]

What can I say to people who judge others and aren't keeping things clean?
They usually start judging you for saying it's not nice to judge.

I need help

We need to stand up for the person who is having that judgement made against them. Make our stand for our perception of truth. We have to be willing to lose ourselves for others in the name of truth. If that person being judged is you, stand up for your truth. If that person is someone else being judged stand with that person and defend them from accusation. Voilent or angry reprisal for judgment is inappropriate though. It has to be done with a spirit of love, gentleness, patience and peace-making. With what measure we give out, is what measure will be given back to us. If we give hate, we get hate back. So giving hate in defense of truth is not the right way to approach it. We have to make gentleness, love and patience our goal in bridging the gap between us and the person judging us or others.

 

[wardpossy]

People are quick to judge but not to be judged, point this out to them, but always do it in a kind way, remember we are all sinners and we can never be perfect in this life, but the important thing is to always keep trying

 

[Daily Miracle]

Tell them they are talking scripture out of context. We are not to, and are not qualified to, judge other's salvation. We are, however, to judge other's words and deeds. It's called discernment. We are to take what we hear and see, then compare it to scripture to see if it is of the Holy Spirit.

I agree.

If a Christian accuses me of being a hypocrite, they are judging me. There is no context to which the statement applied to, and there is nothing constructive coming from that statement. This also implies that the person that made the comment is without guilt on hypocrisy.

On the other hand, if someone tells me I purposely lied about something, and they can prove it...then there is context to the statement when they accuse me of being a hypocrite. They are no longer calling me a hypocrite in general, they are calling me a hypocrite based on a valid issue. Constructively, I am now going to hold myself accountable for my actions in question, and repent...or I am going to be in denial and dig myself into a bigger hole by making up excuses or possibly even try to blame someone else for my lie.

Christians are supposed to help their brothers and sisters walk with God, not hinder them. A judgement passed in love will help me make corrections, and will help strengthen my walk with God. Saying nothing to me will enable me to stay in my sinful ways, and it may cause me to cause others to stray with me...weakening our bonds with God.

I also think the "judgement" subject is most offensive to the prideful, and least offensive to the humble.

 

[Ave Maria]

Just remember that you will be judged in the same way that you judge others. That's in the Bible somewhere, can't remember where at this time though. Sometimes juding is OK. But more often than not, it isn't.