Judgement or fact?

[LadyOfMystery]

In my opinion a lot of people get the two confused. In my opinion if you're to say something to someone you've noticed about them, it's not a judgement its a fact - because you've noticed it about them and you're telling them about it. If you tell someone hey I think so and so is doing this and this, and you've just conjured it up out of thin air, it's a judgment and gossip.

What do you guys think? What's the difference between judgement and a fact? Do you think even if it's a truth about someone it's still a judgement on them?

 

[ModestGirlsRock]

What's the point of bringing up the fact? To make a compliment? To show you're amused by the fact? To show you're confused by the fact? To make a criticism (constructive or not)? To ask a question b/c you're curious about the fact? No one ever just brings up a fact to bring up a fact.

I guess most people will assume when you're noticing or talking about a fact or observation that can clearly be seen about someone, you're bringing it up to make a judgement unless you specify otherwise. And I think the reason why someone would automatically assume judgement is because bringing up that fact triggers a sense of inadequacy, guilt relating to the fact, or something else that is going to produce negativity.

Also, it seems human nature to make a judgement. One way of making a judgement is non-confrontionally calling our judgement a simple observation when internally we might be saying, "We don't like it. It's weird." However, we've got to give ourselves more credit because we all know that person isn't just making a simple observation. Therefore, it leaves us with the choices to say, "So what do you (really) think about it?" or to shrug our shoulders and ignore the comment altogether, or to even state another observation of sorts which we may also call a "fact" regardless if it's a true fact or not.

 

[SwissMiss]

IMO, a fact is something you can bring up to someone if there is a purpose to it (i.e., "Hey you're walking on the wet floor and bringing in mud!" or "I noticed you get really angry when I say hello....is everything ok?")

I think a judgment is basing your opinion on a person because of a certain bit of information (i.e., "She gets really mad when I say hello, so therefore, she's a jerk").

Anywho, that's what I think.