I am a stay at home mum but lately I have been having a growing desire to either start a new career or move countries, or just do something out of my normal routine. Before having kids I (and later with husband) travelled alot and really enjoyed the work I was doing. Both of my kids are under 5 and I know think it is probably best for them if they have me around, but I feel like my brains are going to mush, I am studying part time towards my university degree but it still isn't enough. My feet are itchy to go out and explore the world again!! Does anyone else feel like that sometimes? Do other stay at home mums struggle with this or is it just me?
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Tawny
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I know the feeling exactly! My daughter was 6 months old when I went back to work, it was a combination of needing to and wanting to. I live in a small village 6 miles from the nearest town and if I dodn't work I would not be able to afford my car and to give Kirsty the lifestyle she has. Also when I had her I was on my own, so I had no help or support from the father. Most of the other people in the village who have children are MUCH better off than I am and can afford not to work. Kirsty went to nursery from 6 months and thrived. I would not have been able to give her the social interaction with her peers if I had stayed at home. I know many women would not agree with my decision, but I now have a happy healthy 6yr old who has a happy mummy , she knows that when mummy comes home from work the time we have together is exclusively for her. I am not worrying about housework or stuff like that.
I also feel that if I had stayed at home I would have got bored and frustrated. I would not have been able to go anywhere (we don't even have a park in the village)and would have been miserable as a result.
I also feel that if I had stayed at home I would have got bored and frustrated. I would not have been able to go anywhere (we don't even have a park in the village)and would have been miserable as a result.
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Princessperky
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I don't want to work (my proffesion of choice would be teaching, and I home educate so silly to leave and do it 
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I think in many ways you can get more chances to go out and do more what you want while being there for your little one. But it can be pretty hard before they are old enough to start challenging your brain. (anyone know just which states are smaller than Russia?)
I like work from home options. And I like to have adults over who use their brains more than average. We have a monthly games night (yes playing games uses your brain, for kids and adults) Plus everyonce in awhile I try to bug some people to do a book club or something, but I am a bit limited by not driving.
If you can take your kid with you to something you enjoy, most things are good for kids to see. If not, short time away form mom is not a bad thing. (DS is mainly interested in games cause he watches us play so much, DD asks to be taught to read cause she watches me read so much, etc)
Oh yeah and you specifically mentioned travel, take em with you! If you need help on the finances, check out a few simple tricks to save at home to spend more on travel (I use [font="]Saving Advice)[/font]
.), but I do want to go do what I want more.I think in many ways you can get more chances to go out and do more what you want while being there for your little one. But it can be pretty hard before they are old enough to start challenging your brain. (anyone know just which states are smaller than Russia?)
I like work from home options. And I like to have adults over who use their brains more than average. We have a monthly games night (yes playing games uses your brain, for kids and adults) Plus everyonce in awhile I try to bug some people to do a book club or something, but I am a bit limited by not driving.
If you can take your kid with you to something you enjoy, most things are good for kids to see. If not, short time away form mom is not a bad thing. (DS is mainly interested in games cause he watches us play so much, DD asks to be taught to read cause she watches me read so much, etc)
Oh yeah and you specifically mentioned travel, take em with you! If you need help on the finances, check out a few simple tricks to save at home to spend more on travel (I use [font="]Saving Advice)[/font]
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Princessperky said:I don't want to work (my proffesion of choice would be teaching, and I home educate so silly to leave and do it
I think in many ways you can get more chances to go out and do more what you want while being there for your little one. But it can be pretty hard before they are old enough to start challenging your brain. (anyone know just which states are smaller than Russia?)
I like work from home options. And I like to have adults over who use their brains more than average. We have a monthly games night (yes playing games uses your brain, for kids and adults) Plus everyonce in awhile I try to bug some people to do a book club or something, but I am a bit limited by not driving.
If you can take your kid with you to something you enjoy, most things are good for kids to see. If not, short time away form mom is not a bad thing. (DS is mainly interested in games cause he watches us play so much, DD asks to be taught to read cause she watches me read so much, etc)
Oh yeah and you specifically mentioned travel, take em with you! If you need help on the finances, check out a few simple tricks to save at home to spend more on travel (I use [font="]Saving Advice)[/font]
Great post!
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PrincessP has some good ideas.... I would also add that you could use this time to go to college and get a degree, which is what I am doing. I go on only Tue/Thur.... it is so great to have that baby-free time
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You don't necessarily need to get a full time or even part time job, or got to college, or get a degree in something during this time. Sometimes a once-a-week class in something that you'd like to learn more about is just enough time away, and it is more fun than work or school, you know? For example I am taking a class on Monday nights at church about finances and money. Most people think that'd be a boring class (not me), but you could substitute a cooking class or flower arranging - whatever. You could even volunteer your services at a homeless shelter or crisis pregnancy center.
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Thanks guys, I do enjoy my studies it's just this boring life I feel I living. I think I have a secret fear of ending up like my mum, she was a stay at home mum her whole life and when we left home she really didn't have anything else to do. Maybe it's an early mid life crisis, turned 30 last year but turning 31 seems even worse, feel like I'm getting OLD. My oldest will go to school next year and then I will only have the 1 year old at home. Because of our finances I would have to be earning money, although I would probably prefer to do volunteer type work. Guess I will see what happens. God must know, just find it hard to trust him sometimes.
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I have to find the study but I read, that reading an hour a day of something not school, like reading the paper front to back or a novel keeps brain funtion active and can even keep atzimers at bay.
I'd consider downloading ebooks or finding a library. Maybe you could start reading on a new topic, something you arn't studying in school, but something you've always wanted to learn about and never had the time. Education is free to anyone with a library card and a willingness to read new things. (Sorry I advocate the library a lot because so many people overlook how great libraries are to have.)
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look for a job you can do online from home, if you have an education many of those doors are open to you and will work with a mother.
I'd consider downloading ebooks or finding a library. Maybe you could start reading on a new topic, something you arn't studying in school, but something you've always wanted to learn about and never had the time. Education is free to anyone with a library card and a willingness to read new things.
(Sorry I advocate the library a lot because so many people overlook how great libraries are to have.)Volunteer to be a mod
look for a job you can do online from home, if you have an education many of those doors are open to you and will work with a mother.
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