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it is punishment or suffering?

ryanghee0223

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I am a young and new in Christianity faith.
I met God when I was freshman in college. he did changed my life a lot.

after my life was changed, I worked so hard to achieve the path he opened up for me. I changed my life plan. I am working on getting into the Dental School.
It required a lot of studying, volunteering, stress.
Until now - everything went smoothly as if he was blessing my path and opened every door I knocked.
I got interview with my first choice school right away.
I got good test grades.
I am graduating college a year earlier that other people.

my life seemed like it was blessed more than I deserved.
Because I was new in faith - i did made mistakes. but i believed in him. I accepted him as my savior. I prayed to him a lot.
God gave me the gift of being a leader so people love me and followed me. I was respected although i was young. People thought i was mature. I tried to be humble as possible. I tried my best to be a good christian and good daughter of the God. However, I did gossiped, I did get angry. I did get drunk and put my duty as god's daughter behind time to time.
I forgot to ask for forgiveness. Yet i depended on him a lot. My faith did not diminished yet increased over the years.

Now, everything is falling down as if he is cursing me.
I am not getting my acceptance letter from the school I wanted to go.
My professor reported me to academic integrity for 4 times in this semester because I worked homeworks with my lab partners, yet i gave them wrong information. so three of us is accused of cheating on homework because we got same wrong answers (the answer was related with mispelling of some words - i am not so good with english because I am Asian immigrant.)
this happened because my friends trusted my knowledge and believed i am smart and able to lead them as of the group. (We did not cheat..just some misunderstanding of the professor)

If i found guilty, then I am on honor probation and i have to report this to my school. and it will not go away for another 8 yrs or so.
I have not found guilty yet but there will be council meeting and I have to present my case.

I am very stressed out.
I lost three of my friends (with different people who i was got caught with for the honor integrity)
I am sick with heart condition
I had anxiety and depression and it is coming back. (I went to the point of visual hallucination while I was depressed)
My school problem
my future problem


all these are coming back that the same time.
and i can't show this to anyone.
My parents didn't know anything about my heart condition, anxiety, depression, or the school problem.
I can't tell my friends about my anxiety and depression as well.
I am practically their leader. I am younger than they are but they depend on me mentally, spiritually. i am a leader of 50 students christian campus ministry.

I am scared that if my depression comes back and i will see those visual hallucination again.

Only place I can depend on is Jesus yet i don't get any peace or comfort.
I am not even sure he listened to my prayers.
all the things he gave me and provided me are hunting me now. it is dragging me down more than I can handle.

I tried to read Job, Psalm, John I, Proverb to find peace and trust in God.
To be comforted so that I know God is listening to my prayers and he will answer me.

Yet I can't stop thinking what if God is punishing me.
How long I should endure this suffering and punishment.
i am finally better from depression after taking pills for months.
I am afraid if it will drag me back to that time again.

I am ignorant of whole suffering.
I don't know what to do at this point
I thought i found my peace in God.
I thought I am done with the hard and dark part of my life.
why is this happening to me?

I am so sorry to burst this on here.
but I want some answer from here....I am sorry to share this here and it is long
but i needed a place for this..

thank you
if you can tell me anything- please tell me and advise me. thank you.
 

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Dear :Ryanghee

assuredly this is not a punishment.
though it is clear you are suffering.

I hope: with time you become less concerned with the monetary aspects of your dilemma;
That your depression does not stop you from succeeding in all your endeavors.
And that you friends come to realize that you all made the mistake of sharing answers, and are each guilty of breaking school rules. This blame does not fall alone on you.

Your English was fun to read. You sound like a very sweet girl. I hope you the best.
 
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O my goodness!!! It sounds like you are dealing with so much right now. You are AMAZING and very gifted!!! I do not believe that God in punishing you. God does reprimand us like a loving father, but it is so that we understand and repent our sins. He is honing you like a sword to make you stronger. Sending prayers that the Holy Spirit will grant you the grace to see you through this exceptional challenge and bring you peace and healing. Blessings to you!!!
 
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Hi sister,
It sounds like you're foundation was not built right. Sister ask the Spirit to teach you grace. Paul stated he worked harder than the rest, but by God's though. Getting into leadership quickly will bring snares. Pride will rise up cancelling grace. I suggest reading 1 Corth. chapters 2,3,4. The school thing I have no comment other than seek the Spirit. Please relax look to Jesus he lives in you, he is not punishing you.
 
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I am scared that if my depression comes back and i will see those visual hallucination again.

Visual hallucination is usually symptomatic of blood toxicity such as drugs, poisons, or high fever. It maybe that the stress you are under is also a contributing factor.

Sometimes it can help to consider a worst case scenario. You might be falsely accused of something and find that the door to everything you have worked for is shut. If this were to happen, it would only be because the Lord allowed it. It might be that you would be able to comfort others who also found a life path blocked in the future.

Sometimes God allows a "shake up" in our life to remind us that it is our faith in Him that is important, not something else like our career or our savings account.

Here is a link about suffering that may help put things in perspective;

Christian Pioneer - Why Does God Allow Sufferung
 
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Ryanghee
I must ask what you mean by visual hallucinations.
People tend to throw terms around a lot so I just want to verify.

Do you see things which are solid and not see through, as thought hey exist in real life?
or
Do you see these things in your imagination? and thus are frustrated by them. Like myself.

I think. if it is the latter like myself,
you are just too concerned with or are focusing on something to much. and as a result it reoccurs in your imagination often.
This will not go away until you find other ways to occupy your mind. It is troubling.


Remember too.
God works in mysterious ways.
 
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Dear ryanghee0223. Very often God does not change our plans outright, but God helps us along, to what He has for us. Don`t give in so readily, try and find what God might be telling you. God does not always simply change a situation for us, God will help us slowly to follow what He has for us. Keep watching God all the time, and keep asking in prayer.
I say this with love, ryan. Greetings from Emmy, your sister in Christ.
 
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Hi ryanghee, it sounds like a distressing situation.
There are cultural differences from country to country, in how students approach courses.

Where I am in the US, people will get upset if they find out a student did not take complete responsibility for their learning. They can study in groups, but not come up with answers together unless the instructor specifies that. While many people veer from this, they also recognize that ethical expectations are very strong.

In comparison, there are countries where studying together is normal, and even sharing graded answers is sometimes considered normal.

I agree that it is confusing for a lab, because lab partners usually come up with decisions and measurements together.

A dental student needs to be fully prepared to address patients' needs safely. All the information needs to be in your head -- that is why the school is holding you to this. They grant degrees when they are certain that a person has learned and owned the standardized information and skills that are required to carry out the practice.

Check your school's policy on academic integrity-- their expectations are probably written up in something that you signed earlier.

 
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It's best not to focus too much on what we deserve.

A self-condemning person thinks, "I don't deserve this" when times are good, and "I deserve this and more" when times are bad.

A self-righteous person thinks, "I don't deserve this" when times are bad, and "I deserve this and more" when times are good.

Cycles of happiness and suffering should be expected, and they don't necessarily correspond with how close we are with God or how good we have been. Suffering might include consequences of poor decisions, or it might just be a time of testing. I wouldn't read "punishment" into it.
 
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