Issue with a friend

I have been playing in a Christian band with someone for a couple of months and am really being tested. I want there to be peace in our ministry but this person appears to have a lot of pride and is passively controlling (passive aggressive) with everything from song writing to Christianity in general. He also tends to be very judgemental of others if they don't measure up to his Christian standard. What drives me crazy is that he pushes every single button I have, and I've never had someone irritate me on as many levels as he does. I feel like I'm caught between a rock and a hard place because I want to continue building this ministry and playing for the Lord but I'm having a hard time dealing with the situation. I'm a peacemaker by nature, but that is slowly fading away and being replaced with anger and frustration. I feel like the band should be focused on the Lord and not on our own personal agendas, but every time we get together there is always some kind of tension or differing viewpoint that throws everything off track. Quite plainly, we just don't see eye to eye and I am really doubting if we ever will.

Does anyone have any words of advice on how I should procede with my situation? Every time I bring up a problem I have and try to bring something out in the open, he somehow twists it to make me feel like I'm being irrational or he becomes defensive and 'sarcastic', even paranoid. I have real doubts about whether or not this ministry can continue with me in it, which feels selfish since I'm doing it for the Lord. I've been in quite a few secular bands and I must admit, I've never had any problems. It's so much harder to get along with other Christians musically, I guess. The thought has crossed my mind to ditch this effort and go back to secular music where the musicians are nicer to each other (strange, but very true). It should probably be noted that he's younger than I am and still immature. That's makes the problem much harder to deal with. I feel like I need to set an example but I'm dealing with my own pride issues - I just can't let someone walk all over me and just 'ride it out'.

I'm desperate to figure out what God wants me to do. Am I being tested? I just can't deal with this garbage every time we get together. Any bible verses or suggestions would be very appreciated. Thanks

Thanks raphe for pointing out my own sin in this matter. I've been so caught up in my frustration that I lost sight of the fact that I was sinning as well.

To everyone who responded, thank you - the advice kept me from doing something stupid. It's human nature to try and take the wheel when God is driving, and that's what I would be doing if I reacted out of anger and left the group in haste. Instead I will pray that God heals any divisions we may have and leave it in His hands. All I can do is be a good Christian myself and try to do the right things in God's sight. Everything beyond that is out of my control. That being said, Rage4Christ makes a good point about setting boundaries. Although Jesus was meek, he was noone's doormat. When he needed space, he took it - even if it meant turning someone away.

Again, thanks for all of the wise responses.
God bless