Is this selfish?

[GirlForChrist]

Is it selfish to want to marry someone? I want to marry my boyfriend. He's such a wonderful guy and treats me like no other ever has. He's so great, and such a God fearing young man. I have fallen in love with him, more and more. And I've even fallen in love with his family.

 

[Dawn Marie]

Why on earth would that be selfish? I think it's great.

 

[SlowRoasted]

I dont think its selfish at all, i think you should think about if you are ready for that though.

 

[mina]

I don't think it's selfish, it's normal, healthy , and good.

 

[katelyn]

Why do you think it is selfish? What you posted shows no sign of it being selfish.

 

[Warrior Poet]

Its not selfish, if he wants it too....now if there is pressure on your end to talk about or get married........then it might be.

Warrior Poet

 

[JahRawks]

Amen to what WP said, as long as your not pressuring him into marrying you, then there's nothing selfish about it, wanting to marry the man or woman that you love is very natural. I'm praying God's blessings on you and yours. God Bless-
Nathan

 

[GirlForChrist]

Well no theres no pressure ( I don't think) but its just something that we both antisapate so much. We're so in love, and want to share our lives together.

 

[katelyn]

Well no theres no pressure ( I don't think) but its just something that we both antisapate so much. We're so in love, and want to share our lives together.

^ That's a good thing!!

 

[Mrs K 2004]

I understand your position! I was in a similar one for many years!

I don't think you are selfish, but please do be careful!

I wanted so badly to marry my boyfriend (he's now my fiance!) that I lost track of many things that were important in life!

However, after a lot of thought I got my life back on track, and focused more on the important things (our relationship with each other, God and our families) and now we're engaged and MUCH happier than ever!

 

[GirlForChrist]

Yes I understand what you're saying, thats where we're at now. Refuring to the things you meantioned about focus and things of importance.

(our relationship with each other, God and our families) and now we're engaged and MUCH happier than ever!

We know whats important and focus on it completely...because without God and without the love, support and help of our families we wouldn't be together or in love.

 

[LadyBird]

HOw would something like that be selfish? I don't think wanting to marry your boyfriend is selfish...it's a wonderful and normal feeling to want to marry someone you truly love. If anything, being in love is selfless.

 

[holo]

HOw would something like that be selfish? I don't think wanting to marry your boyfriend is selfish...it's a wonderful and normal feeling to want to marry someone you truly love. If anything, being in love is selfless.

Love is selfless. Being *in love* is selfish. It's not about loving the person, it's about wanting him/her.

Girlforchrist,
Obviously you both love and want this guy.
As for your motives, do you want to marry him for his or your sake? For the sake of both of you? I'm not implying anything is wrong, and I know I'm a bit of a cynicist, but I'm scared by the misuse of the word "love." It's not the same as romance, and while romance probably has its place (I don't practise it myself), I wouldn't think it would be a good idea to to make as important a decision as marriage while you're still floating on the pink clouds.
As Belle says, your feelings are normal, and wonderful, I'm sure. I only disagree very much with the glorifying of romance.

 

[cutekid 4 Jesus]

what he said!^^

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Sounds pretty healthy to me.