Is this judging someone?

[4given29]

When you call someone a hypocrite in your mind, is this judging? And if it is, how can I stop? I'm not trying to just criticize others, but what do I do? And is there a verse that can help me with this?

 

[WashedClean]

When you call someone a hypocrite in your mind, is this judging? And if it is, how can I stop? I'm not trying to just criticize others, but what do I do? And is there a verse that can help me with this?

Hello there,

My heart goes out to you because this is an area where I struggle constantly. I would say that it is judging. It doesn't matter if you voice it to the person or someone else. God can read our minds, so it's judging.

Take a look at Romans 2:1:

"You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. "

This helps me when I'm about to point a finger at someone to turn the finger back on myself. Ask God to help you stop doing this. Ask Him to show you how to be more sensitive to the Holy Spirit. The fact that you're asking this question means the Holy Spirit is showing you that it's wrong. That's something to praise God for!

I know it's tough, but hang in there. God will change your attitude and mind, little by little. When you feel the need to judge someone whom you think is being hypocritical, pray for them instead.

God Bless You,

WashedClean

 

[William Nunn]

I don't believe it is judging. If they are a hypocrite, then they are a hypocrite, plain as that. If you start thinking they are beneath you because they are a hypocrite, THAT is wrong. An apple is an apple, and a hypocrite is a hypocrite, and identifying them as such is not wrong.

 

[desi]

I don't believe it is judging. If they are a hypocrite, then they are a hypocrite, plain as that. If you start thinking they are beneath you because they are a hypocrite, THAT is wrong. An apple is an apple, and a hypocrite is a hypocrite, and identifying them as such is not wrong.

I believe it is judging, and often accurate judging. The Romans quotation was not written to us it was written to the Romans; however, whenever we judge we should be acutely aware of our own faults because we should judge others to the same standards we hold for ourselves.

 

[endure]

4given29

it just depends, it may be you being critical it may not.
do you think that becuase your angry at them? or because you think you are somehow better?
doing it out of anger is judging and you dont have that right.
only God has the right to put punishment or sentence upon a person, like we try to do when we are speak out of anger.

if you are simply realising that they are being hypocrital for the sake of the truth and simply for the truth, and you dont get mad or highminded in yourself, i dont think its judging, simply the truth.
though if we love, seeing another person folly and failure ought to bring us sorrow and never pleasure or any satisfaction, and thats where some people mess up, they dont feel a bit of sorrow over that broken persons failure, all they feel is that that person is wrong.
buts that nothing, the more you know the word and know God the more youll see people being wrong, its a given.
but it ought to bring you sorrow to see those people that way.

but why do you think that anyway?
what spurs you to think that? asnwer that question and youll probly find the root of it all, and expose it for its being wrong if it is.
what causes that thought to come?

is it becuase your angry? thats wrong.
is it becuase you look down on them? thats wrong.

if this is an issue that you have gone to the lengths you have, such as to post a question about it, then you dont feel ok with it, and if you dont have faith that what your doing is absolutely just, then never doit.
becuase the bible says whatever you do without faith is sin.

if you feel like your doing people wrong, then you probly are.
but just try to get away from it anyway, its causing you problems.

ask the Lord to help you change, by the power of the holyghost.
his power influencing your life, can change you.
stay in continual prayer and thinking on the word at all times, stay close to God and hell help you control your mind. you cant control what comes into it, but you can control what is allowed to stay.

the bible says in titus 3.2-3
"speak evil of no man..."
becuase you have been the same way before yourself.
dont think evil thoughts of anyone.
but rather pray for their restoration and salvation.
and meditate on scriptures that concern this issue over and over and over, and overtime they will dominate your mind and spirit and instead of your brain jumping to think people are simply wrong, it will jump to warn you to not think or speak evil of anyone.
your brain works in patterns, it does something becuase thats what its always done. begin to think on new things and you will gradually change how it works. the patterns will change in scriptural patterns the more you meditate on the scripture. you have to break the patterns by putting new things into it.

but also know that in 2 cor 5.3-5
the bible says we are in a war, and this war is not a fleshly war but a spiritual war, and the one thing he said to do in this war was guard your thoughts!
alot of christians beat themselves up for having unclean thoughts, but it doesnt mean your bad, thats a part of the war.
the best and most mature christians have to fight battles, and these battles go on in their minds, where they have to cast down vain imaginations and bring all thoughts into obedience to Christ.

so know that unclean and impure thoughts will come, it doesnt mean your not right with God, it just means your in a battle and you have to continually say "i cast that evil thought down in the name of Jesus" quote v4-5 to yourself.
your always going to have impure ungodly thoughts to come into your mind, you just have to cast them down.
its a part of the fight for the best of us.

hang in there.
Godbless you.
Lee.

 

[Rafael]

4given29

it just depends, it may be you being critical it may not.
do you think that becuase your angry at them? or because you think you are somehow better?
doing it out of anger is judging and you dont have that right.
only God has the right to put punishment or sentence upon a person, like we try to do when we are speak out of anger.

if you are simply realising that they are being hypocrital for the sake of the truth and simply for the truth, and you dont get mad or highminded in yourself, i dont think its judging, simply the truth.
though if we love, seeing another person folly and failure ought to bring us sorrow and never pleasure or any satisfaction, and thats where some people mess up, they dont feel a bit of sorrow over that broken persons failure, all they feel is that that person is wrong.
buts that nothing, the more you know the word and know God the more youll see people being wrong, its a given.
but it ought to bring you sorrow to see those people that way.

but why do you think that anyway?
what spurs you to think that? asnwer that question and youll probly find the root of it all, and expose it for its being wrong if it is.
what causes that thought to come?

is it becuase your angry? thats wrong.
is it becuase you look down on them? thats wrong.

if this is an issue that you have gone to the lengths you have, such as to post a question about it, then you dont feel ok with it, and if you dont have faith that what your doing is absolutely just, then never doit.
becuase the bible says whatever you do without faith is sin.

if you feel like your doing people wrong, then you probly are.
but just try to get away from it anyway, its causing you problems.

ask the Lord to help you change, by the power of the holyghost.
his power influencing your life, can change you.
stay in continual prayer and thinking on the word at all times, stay close to God and hell help you control your mind. you cant control what comes into it, but you can control what is allowed to stay.

the bible says in titus 3.2-3
"speak evil of no man..."
becuase you have been the same way before yourself.
dont think evil thoughts of anyone.
but rather pray for their restoration and salvation.
and meditate on scriptures that concern this issue over and over and over, and overtime they will dominate your mind and spirit and instead of your brain jumping to think people are simply wrong, it will jump to warn you to not think or speak evil of anyone.
your brain works in patterns, it does something becuase thats what its always done. begin to think on new things and you will gradually change how it works. the patterns will change in scriptural patterns the more you meditate on the scripture. you have to break the patterns by putting new things into it.

but also know that in 2 cor 5.3-5
the bible says we are in a war, and this war is not a fleshly war but a spiritual war, and the one thing he said to do in this war was guard your thoughts!
alot of christians beat themselves up for having unclean thoughts, but it doesnt mean your bad, thats a part of the war.
the best and most mature christians have to fight battles, and these battles go on in their minds, where they have to cast down vain imaginations and bring all thoughts into obedience to Christ.

so know that unclean and impure thoughts will come, it doesnt mean your not right with God, it just means your in a battle and you have to continually say "i cast that evil thought down in the name of Jesus" quote v4-5 to yourself.
your always going to have impure ungodly thoughts to come into your mind, you just have to cast them down.
its a part of the fight for the best of us.

hang in there.
Godbless you.
Lee.

This is good advice, and may I add to it that when we judge others, we can only judge for ourselves what the fruit of their lives display. We may not have a right to reprove them, and may often cut ourselves off from any good influence the Holy Spirit might have on them through our own lives if we insult them at the wrong time in life. Being patient and longsuffering with others who are not so lovely in character may be the most difficult of the fruit of God's Holy Spirit for us to grow in, but it may be the ones that produce good results in the end when they finally see the light that we let shine by faith. Remember that it is not flesh and blood that we fight against, but principalities and powers in high places, as the scripture says, so pray against the evil that has hold of those that show hypocrisy, which is an easy sin to fall into, even for generally nice people. If we don't act like Christians in any part of our live, even in our giving, then we are hypoctires too. So, before judging or reproving someone else for a flaw of character, we have to be sure to get the logs our of our own eyes. You've heard that scripture, haven't you, where we cannot remove the speck from a brother's eye unless we have clear vision ourselves?
We all struggle with getting this all in balance, but the golden rule of love and doing to others as we would have done to ourselves helps a lot in guiding us in relationships with others who are difficult, at best. Blessing to you in your journey with God.

 

[4given29]

I just want to say thank you. You have all helped me to realize what I was doing wrong and what I can do about it. I just felt so burdened for these people, but I don't see myself as better than them. Thank you for all your insight, I really appreciate it. Love in Christ, Lindsey

 

[loribee59]

This thread is helping me as well....in dealing with a person who is not a Christian. She bore false witness against me and also falsely accused me. In my mind, she is a hyprocrite for doing the very things she accused me of in the first place.

Yes, it angers me...because I felt her accusations and hyprocrisy was NOT fair. And I have no where to turn or talk to, to defend myself. And I'm having a hard time letting this go.

Hmmm...maybe this should be a seperate thread? But then again, I don't want to bore anyone~ as it is a long and involved story and I'm still trying to get over the hurt I've felt since this past summer.

But I want to say that this thread had been very helpful...and I'll be sure to save it in my "favorites"

~Lori

 

[William Nunn]

This thread is helping me as well....in dealing with a person who is not a Christian. She bore false witness against me and also falsely accused me. In my mind, she is a hyprocrite for doing the very things she accused me of in the first place.

Yes, it angers me...because I felt her accusations and hyprocrisy was NOT fair. And I have no where to turn or talk to, to defend myself. And I'm having a hard time letting this go.

Hmmm...maybe this should be a seperate thread? But then again, I don't want to bore anyone~ as it is a long and involved story and I'm still trying to get over the hurt I've felt since this past summer.

But I want to say that this thread had been very helpful...and I'll be sure to save it in my "favorites"

~Lori

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