I am moving from another forum as I am now walking the road of divorce http://www.christianforums.com/t4759081-found-out-spouse-has-cheated.htmlI am a little worried that things are moving very fast here. You can find some full details in the above post, but wanted to bring something before everyone here that can help me.
For those that don't want to read all the previous post, I will tell you that I am getting divorced and the wife and I am are in full agreement in this choice for Bible reasons. To take everything to this moment, I decided to divorce this last Sunday and since then, (yesterday), I bought the paperwork to file for divorce myself. I have been looking as well for a place to move in to so I can separate myself from the household. So far so good, the wife and I are in full agreement on property, finances, etc. I have yet to file the paperwork, but hey these things take time. Here in Oregon, you get a BOOK practically of over 30 pages of papers to fill out! And this is in the name of saving attorney fees for the service of filling them out!
Fast forward to this afternoon, I get a call from my parents who are aware of this situation and just got a surprising offer from them. It seems that they just visited a trailer park which is about 20 miles from where I currently live and about 15 from my job. They found a fully furnished single wide home with appliances and an Add-on for a super price. They have given me the opportunity to let them buy it for me and I pay them back on top of the normal park fees.
Now, this is obviously a good deal for someone who is getting a divorce and is making a list of things to buy and take when he moves out, but all of a sudden, I am feeling like I am rushing out of the picture too quickly. The daughter who is 12 will be part of our agreement on Joint custody. She wants to spend every other week with me. We all (wife, daughter and I) agree that this is ok and acceptable. I talked to my boss who is also a Christian about this proposal on the house and it's location. He did point out one thing that I didn't think of just yet.... I work at 8am, daughter to school at 8:30am. It would make it hard to get to work and her to school at this time and I cannot change my shift as the other one open would be 7am start for me. I can have the house moved if purchased for a couple thousand more than the asking price, but would have to find land or at least a park to put it in. Land of course, would be expensive as Gold around here so can't do that. But, all the trailer parks are usually scattered on the outskirts of the cities around my area.
So, my questions are multi faceted - IF I choose to take advantage of this offer, would it be moving too fast on my part to literally as soon as escrow closes to move in there which would be within a few days if paid outright in cash which can be done, or a month from now.
Also, not related to this question, but I am really looking for someone that is neutral (not clergy or otherwise), in an anonymous fashion about everything and get some one on one advice taken with The Lord's guidance of course. Even though wife is a good friend now, I can't very well discuss getting over her with her.
Based on this, is it too dangerous to go out and ask a few friends some of which are of the opposite gender for emotional help if they are willing?Please bear with me as I am still new to this divorce thing and hope to never have to go through it again. Any advice for a noob?
