Is it wrong?

mandyjw said:

I don't think that hugging, kissing and holding hands are going to lead you into sin. However, if you feel like it's wrong, you probably shouldn't be doing it. You and your boyfriend need to decide what is right for yourselves before God.

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Forgive me for being blunt but in this area you can't afford to sit down and pray about how far God is willing to let you go before He thinks temptation might overwhelm you. I believe God has already revealed plenty of good advice in this area.

2 Tim 2:21 Therefore if anyone cleanses himself from the latter, he will be a vessel for honor, sanctified and useful for the Master, prepared for every good work. 22 Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Eph 5:3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.

I Cor. 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

There are so many more but you can already see a pattern from these three verses.

The consequences of this particular sin are so grave that we aren't just told to refrain. We are told to not allow even a hint of this in our lives. We are also told to FLEE. It's useful to think of Joseph fleeing from Potiphar's wife's sexual advances. He ran for his life, and so should we.

He certainly didn't hang around to see how much temptation he could stand.

i think simple things like that are fine if you are strong enough to know your limits.

Warrior_For_Jesus said:

Hello. I am a very confused teenager. lol..
Well, my boyfriend and I went to a teen conference over the weekend held by a local church. We heard some really good preaching and we both made some serious decisions.
Ok, well, my boyfriend and I have been holding hands, kissing, hugging, and putting our ars around each other and stuff. But at the conference, they preached about how it was wrong for a man to touch a woman and stuff. My boyfriend and I, who are both Christians were both convicted that maybe we shouldn't touch anymore until we knew it was right. Even stop holding hands.
When I got home from the conference, I starting crying and my mom wanted to know what was wrong. I told her that I was confused and about my decisions. She told me that there wasn't a problem with holding hands and giving pecks as long as you keep them at that and don't go to far. I told my boyfriend that I thought it would be ok to hold hands and just give pecks every now and then. But I'm still not sure, and neither is he. I'm already praying about it. But I thought maybe someone could help me out on here. So your help is greatly appreciated. (=
~ Alyson ~

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Hi Alyson,

My name is Tim and I'm a Baptist Minister from northern Canada. I live here with my wife Aimie and I have to admit...we can relate to the struggle you and your boyfriend are facing. We went through the very same struggle before we were married. I'm not sure if I can solve every problem you face, but here are a few thoughts to consider.

1. Are you and your boyfriend "dating" or "courting"? Dating is something people do for fun, whereas biblical courtship is about prayerfully investigating whether or not the other person is suitable for marriage. Dating is unbiblical. Courting is very biblical.

2. Assuming that the two of your are courting, your goal is to determine if God is calling you to marry the boy. Your body -- all of it -- is the property of the Lord and should only be shared with the man you marry. So don't do anything that will cause you shame before your husband one day...and don't assume this boy will fill the role of husband. Most teen relationships do not result in marriage.

3. Is it ok to hold hands, kiss, hug, etc? Your Mom says "yes". I'd say, "that depends". In a sense your mother is correct; there is nothing inherently wrong with light kissing, hugging, or hand holding. But between the polar opposites of right and wrong, there is a middle ground that requires discernment. So you might try asking: Is it wise for us to hold hands, kiss and hug? Keep in mind, even if these behaviors present no temptation to you, there is a fairly good chance they will spawn lust in your boyfriend -- and an even better chance that he will never admit it when asked. Godly women do everything they can to releave the burden of sexual temptation from others.

Hope this helps.

Forget the long long winded posts all previous to this one and do what the Bible says.

Children, Obey your parents that thy days may be long upon the Earth.

(long life wasn't exactly what was intended here but it is the most accurate to what was said)

Listen to your Parents...they have your best interests at heart. They also know you the best of anyone...especially versus anyone here on the internet.