is it wrong to ignore, or completly cut an ex girlfirend off after break up?

[discipleship8]

is it wrong to ignore, or completly cut an ex girlfirend off after break up?

 

[Argent]

No. Often it's the only way the two can move on.

As a part of that "moving on", it's important to get properly "divorced", which means the one who is ending the relationship tells the other that s/he can no longer see the other and the relationship has come to an end. Guys are often tempted to just start ignoring a girl they don't want to see anymore. This is very immature.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I've done it. Helped us both move on with our lives. Hurt more up front but the pain was over much quicker than dragging it out over a couple of months of being "friends".

I did make it a point to explain to her where I was at and why I was reacting this way, then followed through with the cutting off.

Sometimes it's a good way of getting over someone, but that someone deserves at least that respect, you can't just one day start ignoring them and just leaving them hanging like that. Make the decision and stick to it.

 

[intricatic]

Nope. That's how every relationship I've ever been in has ended. It's a sad thing, especially after being in a relationship for a long time, but sometimes it's the only option.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

As much as it sounds insensitive cutting all ties is the best way to go--

Leaves no room for might of beens and puts distance between yourself and the feelings.

I think there can come a time way down the road that there is a chance to be friendly, but it takes a while.

 

[chanis]

IMO I think you have to do that in order to move on and allow some time for healing because if the person is still around it's hard to move on...

 

[Moluku]

Not really wrong. But don't do this without warning to the girl to where she's left confused and hurt. If the feeling is mutual even better, when you two stop talking. But if not, at least make her aware before pulling out. You both deserve to understand each other and where you stand if nothing else.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Don't just ignore. Talk about the reasons for the break up. As someone who is struggling through the friendship stage I agree that sometimes a clean break might be better off in the long run.

 

[fyrewomangoddess]

is it wrong to ignore, or completly cut an ex girlfirend off after break up?

No, it isn't wrong at all to completly ignore or cut off an ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. I have my fair share of ex-boyfriends that I don't want anything to do with. I find it better to be single. Most of the time it's a very bad idea to remain friends with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. I know this from my own experiences.

 

[oncewaslost]

my brother and his friends have a "zero contact policy" (zcp) after one of them breaks up with a girlfriend. it helps them recover emotionally. i'm all for a break after a break up.

 

[lunalinda]

As it's been said, no, it's not wrong to completely cut her off, just as long as you DO give her the proper closure. Girls DO want closure, even if you intend to never speak to her again. So if a guy just cuts it off with her after breaking up and doesn't even give her reasons or explanation, than that is unacceptable and cowardly. He owes it to her to explain himself before letting her go completely without SOMETHING to go with.

 

[mina]

"A clean break is easier. You can reset it, and it heals, and you move on, but if you leave things messy, and things don't get put right, then it just hurts, for ever."

This is a line from a moronic movie. But it was still a pretty truthful line. it's better to have a clean break. Don't drag something out by continueing to talk to the person. Provide closure and then stop talking to them. It sounds cruel but in the end it's better.

 

[fyrewomangoddess]

If they are an ex. They are an ex for a very good reason.

 

[unameduser]

my last gf went like this. After she said "are you mad at me?? Lets still be friends" I waited 24 hours and I hit the block button on MSN and routed her phone calls to my disconnected landline. Muhahahah! But she decieved me and was going to attemp to pass me off as a "coward friend" So the lack of closure is for her own good.

 

[discipleship8]

My relationship was like:
We broke up, she would call me but i wouldn't call her, and when she did call it was less than before. I would answer the calls but gradually i stopped answering. Its been a year and some change now, but i feel like i did the right thing at that moment of crisis. Wht do you guys think?

 

[Diane_Windsor]

It is fine to cut off all ties when a relationship has ended-just make sure that the girl knows that you are breaking up with her. An acquatence of mine just went through a break-up, but the jerk never informed her that he was breaking up. The jerk not only comletely avoided her, but he even changed his phone number, etc., etc., etc. The entire situation instantly reminds me of the "disfellowship" practices of the JWs.

Anyway, I think she realizes that she is way better off then dating a guy who acts like a fifth grader *rolleyes*

DIANE

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I think its rude

 

[discipleship8]

it seems like guys and girls feel a lil different about this situation. I feel like im in the middle. I did inform my Ex of the break up. So thats cool for the guys. But it seems when i say that me answering her phones calls decreased ontill i just stopped talking to her completely, the women think its wrong. Let me know what you think, and im not trying to cause division, we all love each other and want to keep the peace i hope. Amen