Is it wrong for a Christian couple to get a prenuptial agreement before marriage ?

QuestionQuest74 · Nov 19, 2023

Divorce unfortunately happens in and out the church should a Christian person protect their finances and get a prenup before marriage.

trophy33 · Nov 19, 2023

It can be useful, but the laws differ from state to state and lawyers can find many loopholes in it, so its not as safe as men think.

timothyu · Nov 19, 2023

If the situation warrants it it would be a practical idea, however a Christian is told save for adultery there is no divorce so a pre-nup suggests they are not serious in following the concepts of Christianity..

Sketcher · Nov 19, 2023

Nah.

With the divorce rates in the church being what they are, I'm not going to judge someone for getting one with the i's dotted and the t's crossed.

Paidiske · Nov 19, 2023

I think it depends a bit on intent. If the intent is to withhold from your spouse what they would otherwise be legally entitled to, that doesn't seem very Christian. If the intent is, for example, to protect funds set aside for children born before the marriage (or something like that), then it becomes more defensible.

timothyu · Nov 19, 2023

A will to protect asserts or children, etc. would be more beneficial. But most areas have laws with presets to determine how assets should be distributed. For instance a wife or husband marrying into an already established estate is only eligible for half of the increase in value from that time forward, or another example, inheritances to either spouse from other sources remain the sole property of the inheriting spouse and not their mate, etc.

Paidiske · Nov 19, 2023

timothyu said:
A will to protect asserts or children, etc. would be more beneficial. But most areas have laws with presets to determine how assets should be distributed. For instance a wife or husband marrying into an already established estate is only eligible for half of the increase in value from that time forward, or another example, inheritances to either spouse from other sources remain the sole property of the inheriting spouse and not their mate, etc.

That depends very much on where you live. It doesn't reflect the law (as I understand it) here.

timothyu · Nov 19, 2023

Paidiske said:
That depends very much on where you live. It doesn't reflect the law (as I understand it) here.

Exactly. It is up to the people to demand presets by law, especially in the days of the me generation. No reason to make lawyers richer than necessary.

Maria Billingsley · Nov 20, 2023

QuestionQuest74 said:
Divorce unfortunately happens in and out the church should a Christian person protect their finances and get a prenup before marriage.

Prenuptial agreements are not just in case of divorce it is good to have if there are children involved from a previous marriage. That being said, if one party is deliberately protecting themselves from spousal support then the foundation of the marriage is starting off on shaky grounds. Blessings.

Daniel Marsh · Nov 20, 2023

com7fy8 · Nov 20, 2023

Why would you marry someone you do not trust??

Do you have the ability to make sure with God about who you marry . . . so you don't need such a thing?

Do you love your spouse so you would not care if the person got everything?

Curiousmind · Dec 19, 2023

The sad thing is, we can't even trust your christian husband or wife can we ?

Curiousmind · Dec 19, 2023

com7fy8 said:
Why would you marry someone you do not trust??

Do you have the ability to make sure with God about who you marry . . . so you don't need such a thing?

Do you love your spouse so you would not care if the person got everything?

Thing is, we can never be sure we can trust someone, sometimes you think you can trust someone, but after a few years in the relationship you discover you can't trust the other. I mean Judas betrayed Jesus, the other disciples, so kinda his pals, trusted him didn't they, in the end Judas betrayed Jesus.

linux.poet · Dec 20, 2023

I honestly think this needs to be determined on a case by case basis, which is probably the case for most marriage questions. You can't really jump down on the "no, this is wrong!" or "yes, it's absolutely okay!" for every couple, because there's always some unforeseen edge case that throws all of your finely crafted logic out the window and into the dumpster.

For example, let's say that I'm a Christian running a highly successful business that is worth millions of dollars and I want to marry someone who is less well off. A prenuptial agreement may clearly define financial responsibilities for each spouse so that I don't get taken advantage of in my marriage, for example. What happens if I need to step away from my business because I'm pregnant? What if my business goes under? How much money am I obliged to pull out of my business in order to support my family? These financial questions are best settled before the situation occurs so they are not the subject of stressful recurring arguments and blame assignments.

On the other hand, for a young couple of equal income and no children between them, a prenuptial agreement is a sign of a lack of trust, which can erode the relationship over time. Making such an agreement is likely a poor decision, because they will need to evolve their decision making as they change and their situation changes. Forcing everything to fit an ironclad agreement is shortsighted and likely will sabotage the relationship.

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