Is it normal to be scared of marriage?

[nola1177]

I put a previous post up here regarding my fear of marriage. I've been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now, I bought a ring and she bought a dress very early in our relationship. I thought she was the one but every time she mentions marriage, I feel like im going to get sick. I felt a grip of fear when we were looking at venues. It's been since January since that happened, we love each other dearly, and we've been trying to fix this problem.
She's an avid listener of Joyce Meyers and she tells me "to do it afraid".
Is she right? Or should I say no? Do you think God is speaking to me? It's really hard to let her go because I love her, but I also feel remorse. Please pray for me for discernment and stregnth. Any advice would help. Thanks

 

[iambren]

"Is it normal to be scared of marriage?"


Absolutely terrifying. What you are going through is normal. I enjoy Joyce Meyers but I differ with her on this one. I don't think you should marry till you have a peace to do it; you must come to a point where you are going to stake your claim. There may still be some nerves but your soul must be ALL on board. Good luck!

 

[mina]

^agreed. I remember your earlier posts and I agree with iambren that you should not marry until you have peace about it and actually WANT to marry this girl beyond your fear. I think it's normal to feel a little scared: marriage is a big step in life and as with anything involving another person that you can't control -it's a risk. But, it sounds like to me like she is pressuring you to get her way. I really think that God does give peace and eagerness to marry someone when you are thinking of marrying them; peace that outweighs the fear anyway. If you are feeling pressured to marry then I would say don't go through with it.

 

[nola1177]

Thank you, please pray for me as I talk to her about my heart. More and more I feel this is not Gods will. Also I'm realizing that she's somewhat jealous that I'm close to my family since she isn't to hers. She got aggravated with me because I wanted to see my niece and she wanted to talk more on the phone. We see each other almost every day and I spend more time with her than my family. Anyway I'm not trying to dig dirt on her, but I need to let her go due to this isn't Gods will. Please pray for stregnth for both of today and in the future.

 

[citizenthom]

It's normal to be scared of a girl who buys a wedding dress without a proposal, who tries to pressure or guilt you into marriage, and who flies off the handle when you want to spend time with your family. Run, man, run.

 

[iambren]

You go Nola! You do the (gulp) right thing. It's such a pain that doing the right thing is so difficult. My brother broke an engagement with a great gal he met in Bible college. Tough call. BUT he was guilted by the families to follow through. In 2-3 years they were divorced. Keep your eye on the prize that God wants for you.