Well yeah I guess I wans't asking the question as if I felt bored. I was just getting peoples views since I hear alot of people say they get bored.
Even in a good marriage, you are likely to experience stress, boredom, or frustration, and a range of other negative emotions during your lifetime. But there is also joy, excitement, satisfaction, contentment, and many other good things you will experience.......It is really important to have a commitment to marriage that goes way beyond how you feel at the moment
Oh I agree. And thats something me and my fiance discussed. We both realize marriages are more then just happy loving feelings all the time. We will be as strong as possible and never divorce since we don't believe in it since we both been hurt by people in the pass who decided to quit on us rather then stay commited. My fiance is very strong to because her mother basically taught her since shes a pastors daugther.
Actually in her country there is no divorce. If you are even caught eyeballing another woman in ways you shouldn't often the village men will, to be blunt, gang up on you and cut off your manhood. Well it was more commong in the 80s. Now sure of how much that goes on now. But they are very family oriented people.
I literally had to talk to about 40 family members of hers before anyone would bless me. They wanted to make sure I was legit and that I would not make her cry one tear. Now they all love me! Of course they said if I wasn't disabled they would want me there because they don't like that americans divorce. I told them they have no worries about that with me.
I explained to them the women in my past who literally abused me and yet I stayed with them even though we were not married. Then I told them how the last women I was with was terminally ill and wanted me to leave so I wouldn't see her die. But I refused because even while in a relationship, theres no reason to seperate unless you truly feel you don't work well together.
Are you planning on living long distance after getting married? Why would you do that?
Well only for 9-12 months after we marry. Not because we want to mind you. But because once I come back I have to file for a spousal visa which takes 9-12 months for her embassy to approve so she can come here. Thats why I am marrying her there and we are having a long honeymoon so that bond that is created will hold us over until we are back together. Although if Gods provides I want to try and take another rip there to be with her for 21 more days (the limit as a visitor).
You may want to meet in person and check things out. Also, in some countries you aren't considered engaged if you don't ask her parents for her hand.
lol (not at you) but its funny because I just got asked this elsewhere. See my reply here:
http://www.christianforums.com/t7653739-34/#post61356079
Being a former hacker (which obviosuly I don't do know because of the ethics of it) I dug deep into her past. Grant it she gave me access to everything she had such as FB, EMail, bank accounts. Even her dating sites she tried. There is no evidence of lies at all. I don't even feel weird at all. Which is great because the past woman I was with I always felt stuff was being hidden.
Actually in order to engage (her mothers a pastor at a non-denom church), I sent my fiance and her mother (dad is gone) a video showing her our house and at the end asking for her hand in marriage!
Because they have a unstable wifi connection they watched it at a webcafe. Alot of family members were gathered around and loved it, especially when I asked for her hand in marriage. They said thats how it should be!
Mind you before this I got grilled by lots of her family to make sure I was real to because at the one site she was at, alot of them men lied to her and just wanted sex from her they found out. So it awhile to make sure we were both real. I know my fiance says she used to work in Manila but she said she had to leave because when she was webcafes almost all the women (prostitues or not) were on websites scamming men. She found it upsetting because she didn't want everyone thinking that how filipino women are, since alot of filipino women are truly loyal, loving and honest.
She also mentioned most of the scammers are catholic because thats the main religion there. NOt that she said she had anything wrong with their denomination. Its just she never heard of a scammer that wasn't one (or a hooker). As you can see in that other posts theres alot more going to that made me sure we are meant to be together. Fasting, praying, talking to others, invesitgating, blessings from God and so on. This is stuff that never happened with my fast relationships. If anything everyone told me not to trust the past women. I got no blessings, no answered prayers or anything with them.
Actually speaking of honesty she did tell me when we first met she had sex once with a filipino man who she was engaged to. he made her feel loved and things got out of hand and they had sex, then he left her because he wanted her virginity taken away. She felt bad but I confesse to her I made the same mistake.
