Is he the right guy for me?

[Godsmercies]

I am a very devoted born again christian who believes in no sex before marriage i am in my mid twenties and unfortunately for me i met a guy at the church recently and we decided to have lunch at his appartment but it turned out to be something right now i regreted i ever did because we slept with each other even though he couldn't penetrate i feel i have lost my virginity. He wants me to be his girl and actually asked me why i waited so long without sex and if didn't miss it From that statement i knew he doesn't like God's idea of no sex before marriage.

Do you guys think its right for me to date him?

Now i am even more sad because we didn't play it safe

May God forgive me and give me another chance

Please pray for me brethren

 

[Johnnz]

Flag him away. he does not share your values.

Tell God about it, and then put it behind you. We learn a lot from those experiences. You will be wiser (I hope) next time.

Bless you
John
NZ

 

[malckiah]

i agree with Johnnz, but truly only God has the answer for your life.....As scripture says that we should allow the peace of God to rule in our hearts......like an umpire we should seek God in all situations and heed His Spirit.......if you do not feel at peace about this guy, then i would say you probably shouldn't be with him.
But seek God and He will speak to your heart! God Bless!

 

[iannassah]

Hello Godsmercies!
i'm so sorry that that what happened....happened. The first person that you have sex with, you can be sure, you will become attached to. You asked if we think that it is okay for you to date him...well, what really matters is what God thinks. He is the one that we will have to answer to. If you stay away from this guy & don't have sex until you're married then you can be sure that God has forgiven you. One thing that i wished that i had done is set boundaries for myself. In otherwords decide that 'i will only go this far' with any guy until i get married--personally, now, after having been married and knowing what i do about the male gender i would probably try to stick to just holding hands and no more. Guys are turned on by touch and things that would blow your mind!!! ---if you can see yourself getting into a situation that you shouldn't be then get out of there as fast as you can!!! Avoid those types of situations all together!!! Get an accountability partner!!!
Any guy that wonders why you have waited so long to have sex isn't the kind of guy that you want to be hanging out with (he is living for his fleshly desires and not for God)... obviously, he has had at least one or more sexual partners. That means a greater chance of getting a sexually transmitted disease. Also, even though he may not have penetrated you you can still get pregnant! Keep your pants on and stay away from temptation!!! Think of the possible consequences for you and your family and remember that it is those same consequences that your heavenly Father is trying to protect you from, He loves you so very much and those problems could keep you from doing what God wants you to do for Him or seriously delay what God has planned for you!!!

Shalom,
iannassah

 

[iannassah]

"For this is the will of God,
your sanctification:
that you should abstain from sexual immorality:
that each of you should know how to posses his own vessel in sanctification and honor,l
not in passion of lust,
like the Gentiles who do not know God'
that no one should take advantage of and defraud his
brother in this matter,
because The LORD is the avenger of all such,
as we also forewarned you and testified.
For God did not call us to uncleanness,
but in holiness.
Therefore he who rejects this does not reject man,
but God Who has also given us His Holy Spirit."
I Thessalonians 4:4-8

"...do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit [who is] in you,
whom you have from God..."
I Corinthians 6:19​

 

[WhoeverLovesGod01]

Satan has stepped into your life to destroy you and rob you of what you deserve. He hates you. He wants you to screw up, become unhappy and never find love. God on the other hand, wants to build you, guard your sexuality and let it wait as a seed to grow into something beautiful with the right man. If this guy is still seeking sex with you, he is not behaving like a Christian. If you want to date him, fine, but you must first discuss this issue with him. You must fall in love, not lust, in order to have a happy relationship with someone.

 

[madison1101]

I suggest you pray and seek the Lord's guidance on this matter. Scripture is clear about sex. Read 1 Corinthians 6 on this matter. The Lord forgives your sin, if you confess and repent of it.

Give it to God. He will give you the strength to do what is right.

Trish

 

[LovingtheLord247]

Did he know your beliefs about abstinance before the aparment thingy?
Not that that gives an excuse. But if he didn't know and you went along with it, then it's not all his fault. I'm not trying to "blame" anyone. I'm just saying that you might not end the relationship based on what happend.
Now, if you tell him NOW that you don't want to have sex before marriage and he doesn't respect that then you need to get out ASAP.
Maybe he has the same dissapointment for what happend? Maybe you two just need to come to an agreement and let the past go. God forgives us for our past sins. Don't hang on to them. That is saten doing his job.

 

[saraharms1]

He doesn't have any boundries in a realtionship. You shouldn't be with him since he doesn't have the same boundries and vaules as you do.
I'm sorry that this happened to you by the way. Sometimes things happen and you don't realize what you did wrong until you've done it and there is no way to change it. The great thing about the God we have is that he's forgiving! He knows we are only human and that things like this will happen. As long as we learn from out mistakes and ask for forgiveness its okay. That doesn't mean we won't have to suffer other consequences here on Earth.


I'm praying for you!